When Breastfeeding Is Sex Abuse


breastfeeding childBreastfeeding a 6-year-old is on the extreme end of extended breastfeeding, but should the act actually be illegal?

For one Australian mother it now is.

But before breastfeeding advocates get all hot and bothered, it seems the multitude of stories that say the mom was breastfeeding her kid too long have it all wrong.

This isn't a case of breastfeeding. It's sex abuse.

Says News.com.au:

During a custody battle over the little boy in a Melbourne court, it was revealed he had complained that the mother wanted him to suckle her breasts during a visit with her last year.

The court has banned the mom from breastfeeding him, but if the kid was asked to suckle by his mom ... and there was no food coming out, is that really breastfeeding?

It sounds like someone's clouding the issue here to raise the ire of breastfeeding advocates for an issue that isn't even an issue.

Breastfeeding ceases to be breastfeeding when the milk stops flowing. And at that point, breasts do indeed revert to being sexual -- especially if a mother is requesting a child suckle rather than the other way around.

The act of suckling can be sexually arousing. Studies have shown as much as 40 percent of women report some sort of arousal during breastfeeding. The numbers are fewer (let's face it, how many of us can get off on just nipple stimulation alone from an adult?) but some have even experienced orgasm.

That's not to say breastfeeding is sexual -- it's the act of feeding one's child.

But take away the food, and what are you left with? Sex abuse of a child.


Image via blmurch/Flickr

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lynhea lynhea

Yeah I have to agree with that.  is too old to be breastfeeding,  you are well passed the age that it is beneficial anyway. And apparently she wasn't breastfeeding. As for me I was sad when my son weaned because I wanted to keep him a baby for as long as possible. Many women, like myself go thru a depression period when their child weans. This however is just trying to hold on tooo long especially where there is no more milk. I feel sorry for the child and while I am pro-breastfeeding even into the toddler years, I don't think a child should remember the experience.

TLParker TLParker

I personally believe that 6 years old is too old to be breastfeeding. But that's just my opinion. I think the only person can decide that for them is the mother and a child. Apparently, this child did not want to breastfeed. So regardless if she was producing milk or not, it's wrong.

nonmember avatar SKL

This mom didn't even have custody of her child (who was 5, not 6) and she denies that she tried to make him suckle.  Who is saying this has anything to do with breastfeeding?

I was brought up around breastfeeding with weaning around age 2.  So that's what seems normal to me, but I've heard it's normal in some cultures to let kids as old as 5 take a turn at suckling from their otherwise breastfeeding mom.  So I don't have a problem with this as a form of healthy parent-child intimacy.  Obviously this case in Australia is nowhere near that.

mistr... mistressScorpio

By conflating the issue this whole case is going to become a referendum on extended breastfeeding and what other people do/do not think is a reasonable age to end it.

ethan... ethans_momma06

O.k. we ALL know how pro-boob I am by now but as you mentioned- this isn't about breastfeeding! Heck, if she asked her 16 year old son to do this- would breastfeeding even be mentioned at all? Ummm no. It would straight up be sex abuse.

This ISN'T a case of a 6 yr old breastfeeding. This isn't a case of a mother trying to continue a breastfeeding relationship with her six year old. ( or 5 yr old actually as the report says that that is when this incidence occured) Heck, it isn't even about his MOTHER bfing him, as he considers his 'Carer' his mother...

It's about some woman who allegedly tried to have a 5 yr. old suck on her breasts.

So definatly NOT breastfeeding. On so many levels is this not...

Pnukey Pnukey

If the kid is old enough to ask for it, s/he's too old to breast feed. Making a 5 or 6 year old "suckle" is just sick, sick, sick.

ethan... ethans_momma06

Pnukey- I politely disagree. My 10 month old could 'ask' for it and he had not reached the reccomended time frame of one year (AAP reccomendation). A two year old would also be able to ask to nurse and that is still within reccomendations (WHO reccomends nursing until AT LEAST age two).

tazdvl tazdvl

Even if she still had milk in her breast the kid clearly doesn't want to have anything to do with his moms breasts, she needs help.

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