This Mom Doesn't Love Her 2 Kids 'the Same' -- & She's Not Ashamed to Admit It

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One of the biggest things parents worry about when they decide to have a second child is whether or not they'll be able to love both of their kids "the same." We want our babies to feel like they get equal attention, equal adoration, and like there's no chance that we'd ever play favorites. But when Casey Huff welcomed her second baby last year, she quickly found that she doesn't love her kids the same way -- not even close -- and she shared why that shouldn't be a big deal in a viral post that's got parents talking.


"I don't love my kids the same," Huff wrote on her popular Facebook page, Etched in Home. "This worry-turned-fact is something that kept me awake when I was pregnant with my second son ... It was the unsettled feeling that I cried over on the way to the hospital after dropping our oldest boy off. The next time we saw him he would be a big brother, and I wondered how I could ever love the new baby with the same overwhelming love I felt for him."

But Huff quickly learned that she shouldn't have worried at all -- not because she birthed her second son and suddenly felt the exact same way as she did with her firstborn, but because she finally understood that she isn't supposed to love them the same way.

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"My love for my them is as unique as they are from one another," she wrote. "I love my oldest as the perfect replica of the best guy I know; his Daddy. I love my youngest in the way that his smile reflects my own, right down to his full lips and the gap between his two front teeth. I love my big as my sidekick; always up for exploration and adventure. I love my little for his cuddles; for the way that he nestles into my neck and lays the whole weight of his body against me, sinking into my own."

Huff's words aren't particularly "controversial" to moms who've been there, but it's still taboo to admit to feeling this way about your kids. In the comments on her post, moms shared that they think the same way about their own kids, but they get judged for making it known.

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But as others pointed out, loving kids differently doesn't mean you love either of them less. It's so important for moms to understand that this is normal.

As moms, we love our kids differently because each of them are unique little people. We love them differently because we know them better than anyone, and we see every little thing that makes them tick. It would be a disservice to love them exactly the same way and ignore all the things that make them, them. And Huff gets that.

"These babies of mine? I love them in the way that I love both sunshine and moonlight," she wrote. "Not one more than the other. Each one just as much, but never the same."

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