It Took This Mom 12 Years to Put Herself First & Change Her Damn Earrings

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When your lifestyle changes as your family grows, many moms have increasingly less time for themselves. In order to adapt, they streamline their own routines and some even end up going for different hairstyles and outfits that take up less time all in the name of survival. That's why one mom stopped fooling around with accessories and wore the same pair of earrings, but when they got stuck -- and she didn't do anything about it for 12 years -- she realized it's time to laugh at the situation. 

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Jennifer Fulwiler is the author of One Beautiful Dream: The Rollicking Tale of Family Chaos, Personal Passions, and Saying Yes to Them Both, and to say that she's had her hands full over the years is an understatement. "We had six babies in eight years, no twins, so I pretty much always had a baby in the house," she tells CafeMom.

Which is why she rocked her diamond studs daily. Not only were they sentimental (her parents gave them to her for her 25th birthday), but they were also practical (no worries of babies grabbing at them). And most importantly, they were completely stuck. 

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When she noticed that they kept falling out, Fulwiler found earring backs that she's "pretty sure were made for astronauts undergoing maximum g-force experiments." So once she put them in, they were impossible to take out again.

Instead of dealing with the jammed jewelry in her earlobes, Fulwiler completely forgot about them in the midst of caring for her family. "I first noticed they were stuck when I got the new backs for them in 2006. I was annoyed that I couldn't get them off and told myself I'd deal with it soon," she says. "I would have laughed out loud if I'd known that it would take me over a decade (12 years) to get to it."

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Over the years, Fulwiler's husband offered to help her pry out the earrings but she never took him up on it. "[He] had these huge wire cutters he said he could use to cut the studs. I wasn't interested since it seemed like it would probably take part of my ear off with it as well," she says. "I think that any mom of even one child can relate to not getting everything off of your to-do list, even if they're not as bad as I am about it. Whether you have one kid or 10, it's a hard job."

After recently working with a friend who is a fashion consultant, Fulwiler at last resolved to tackle the situation and finally change her earrings. She ordered a pair of small wire cutters on Amazon, and after more than a decade together, she officially removed her iconic earrings. "This is a huge day. HUGE," she wrote on Instagram commemorating the occasion. "My children have never seen me with any other earrings. Most of my friends have never known me to wear any other accessories in my ears."

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After she dropped her studs off at a jeweler's to have the posts repaired, Fulwiler went out and bought a fashionable new pair of earrings that represent this new phase of motherhood. "I hope that by sharing my story, I give other women permission to go easy on themselves if they're in a crazy season of life," she tells us. "Sometimes we can't always get everything done that we want to get done. Sometimes we end up with earrings stuck in our ears for 12 years. And that's okay."

So no matter what season of motherhood you're in, Fulwiler hopes that you cut yourself some slack while being there for everyone else. "The moral of the story is: 1) No matter how crazy you think you are, at least you didn't have earrings stuck in your ears for 12 years," she wrote. "2) If you have things on your to-do list that have been sitting there forever and you never quite seem to get to it, don't give up hope! One of these days you might actually get to it."

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