Why This New Mom Doesn't Give a Damn About Getting Her Body 'Back' After Birth


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One of the first things moms are pressured about post-birth is their changed bodies. Whether it be the expectation that weight gain will simply "fall off" or the presence of new things like belly stretch marks, the postpartum body-shaming is so real. Feeling the pressure mounting, one new mom is speaking out about why she refuses to be pressured into getting her body "back."

  • Weeks after giving birth to her first child, mom and fitness guru Ashlie Molstad spoke out about her stance.

    "I have large strong legs that aren't the least bit feminine," she wrote on her Facebook page, Foodie Girl Fitness. "My calves are so large I can only fit them into wide-calf boots. I have belly jelly and a pooch that can't be hidden by my clothes. I do not have toned arms. My face is scarred from years of cystic acne. I have stretch marks on my thighs, breasts and butt. I don't like wearing jeans anymore because they don't always fit over my hips and if they do they generally cut into my stomach."

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  • "WAIT," Molstad wrote. "Let me try that again."

    The new mom then changed her tone, quickly going from listing her "flaws" to pointing out what every single non-perfect part of her body has done for her. "I have strong legs that are capable of taking me anywhere I need to go, and have walked me across several half marathon finish lines, danced like crazy on some of my favorite evenings, and swam in the ocean under the sun as I've traveled to see parts of this world," she wrote.

  • She also talked about her stomach, which was previously toned and is now drastically different.

    "Just because it is soft, does not mean it isn't strong," she said. "It holds me up, protects my back, and propels me through basically any movement I choose."

  • Newly found stretch marks aren't something Molstad is ashamed of either.

    "Stretch marks might cover parts of my body, but those parts are strong and a part of me," the mother wrote. "And as far I can tell, they're just rad little lightning strikes to remind me I am a force of nature."

  • Even when confronted with the too tight fit of her favorite jeans, she doesn't doubt her worth or beauty.

    "I may not be able to fit into my jeans from a year ago, but leggings are more comfortable anyway," she added. "And I can wear the SHIT out of a smile."

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  • Ultimately, Molstad recognizes that the pressure moms are put under to change and apologize for their postpartum bodies is complete bull.

    "Don't ever forget, my loves, that your value isn't in the circumference of your thighs, the softness of your belly, the marks on your body," she wrote at the end of her post. "Your value is INFINITE. You don't have to change your body, you just need to change your thoughts."


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