Stay-at-Home Mom Fires Back at Haters Who Say She Doesn't 'Work'

Mom Anna Strode with her kids

In the never-ending war between mothers who stay at home and mothers who work outside the home, there needs to come a time when we can lift up our white flags and say "truce" ... because, at the end of the day, we're not enemies, but comrades-in-arms who are just doing our best for our kids. Anna Strode is a SAHM who's fed up with people assuming she doesn't work, and she has a strong message for those who want to throw stones her way.


After receiving a comment on one of her Bubs2Bikinis social media pages that said "I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK," Strode -- a mom of twin boys and a fitness blogger who's pregnant with her third child (yup, hands are full!) -- couldn't hold back.

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"Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs?" the mom wrote in her Instagram post.

Needless to say, Anna did not mince her words about how hurtful these comments are to stay-at-home moms, and why it's so important for people to not assume full-time mothers don't do work.

Anna Strode

"PLEASE, I'm begging you, NEVER underestimate HOW HARD 'stay at home' mums WORK! .... You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout?" the mom continued. "You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! ... I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing sh*tty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted."

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The mom also shed light on how being a stay-at-home mom impacts her family -- specifically Strode's and her husband's finances -- and denounced a common misconception about families with a stay-at-home parent.

"We are NOT rich," she made clear in her Instagram post. "Me staying at home with our children means we have to GO WITHOUT a LOT of things! We rent out a studio out the back of our house on AirBnB to help pay for extra bills, I have to clean this most days (wash sheets, make bed, clean bathroom and kitchen, vacuum and mop) with Lachie and Sammy by my side. I've worked hard to grow this Instagram page, hours upon hours with children crawling all over me trying to get content filmed, videos edited and blog posts written -- so it can contribute financially to our family."

Yesterday's little sweat sess �� Of course it wouldn't be a complete workout without having to break up some fights over toys �� #mumlife I've still been able to do some low impact jumping exercises as I am extremely lucky to have a strong pelvic floor. I DON'T recommend these exercises for you if it 'makes you feel like you need to pee' though or if you feel any slight form of being uncomfortable. You can still continue doing the exercises, just take the 'jump' out of it �� Can't believe bump will be 29 weeks on FRIDAY � This pregnancy is flyinggggggg compared to the twins. For this workout I did 4 rounds of the following: 10 x Bench Burpees with Push Up 16 x Reverse Lunge with Arm Circles (this burnsssss ��) 15 x Bench Push Ups 16 x Step Ups 15 x Tricep Dips 16 x X Jumps I stopped for a little 1 minute or so play with the boys between each round ��

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I certainly won't profess to know the ins and outs of this mom's day, but as a work-from-home mom with 3- and 1½-year-old boys, I definitely get the gist of what she's saying. So many people assume I "have it easy" or am "living the good life," because I'm able to have a career I enjoy in the comfort of my own home with my kids. Well, honey, it ain't always comfortable, LOL.

There are many times when I feel like I'm failing my kids, because I have deadlines to meet and can't devote every second of my time to playing. Remember that hilarious BBC interview with the dad whose kids rushed in the room? Yeah, that has happened to me on more occasions than I'd like to admit.

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Sometimes I feel like people devalue my career because I can stay at home -- they think it's less important than my husband's since I don't go into an office. And, like Anna, whose husband leaves their home early and comes back in the evening, I admit it can feel like the walls are closing in on me when I have the kids all day and no lifeline or tag-team partner in sight ... because there is no back-up; it's just me.

Admittedly, I am guilty of passing judgment on others at times (I'm not a perfect person; I'm a work in progress), but I refuse to get caught up in this stay-at-home mom vs. working mom BS where I speak in extremes -- like saying that being at home with kids or working outside the home "is the hardest job in the world" (that actually drives me nuts!) -- or get caught up in how much stay-at-home mothers are worth versus working mothers. To me, that only belittles someone else's journey in order to make yours feel more important.

As Anna Strode so poignantly writes in her Instagram post, "We [stay-at-home moms] do it because we love it but we often do it with tears rolling down our faces, our heads in our hands crying, and with a huge sense of loneliness from the adult world too! I'm not saying that I ... work harder than another, what I'm saying is we ALL work hard!"

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