This Honest Facebook Post Nails the Myth of the Perfect Mom

Cierra Lyn Fortner is a mom of two whose Facebook post is one every mom needs to read.
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Every mom knows how the game is played once your feet leave the front door: smile, nod, pray to God your kids don't break or burn anything down -- repeat. On the outside, it might look like you're a finalist for the "Most Perfect Mom" award, but on the inside -- and behind closed doors -- you know what the situation really is. Cierra Lyn Fortner is a Missouri mom whose candid confession about the realities of being a parent is reminding moms everywhere that it's totally okay if you don't have your sh*t together.


Fortner is a mom to a 4-month-old and and a 10-month-old, and she recently took to Facebook to share an encounter with a Walmart employee who told her she looked like she "had it all together."

But little did this cashier know, Fortner often has her hands full. In her post, the mom revealed she battles anxiety and depression and often struggles to not have too many "I'm losing my sh*t moments" that would turn heads in public.

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"[Having it all together is] far from the truth, but as I drove home there was more I wanted her to know about me," Fortner wrote in her Facebook post.

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"I want her to know that once we got to the parking lot the 'well behaved' child decided to stand up in the cart and I wasn't paying attention and barely caught him as he almost hit the concrete," Fortner admitted.

She continued:

But most importantly I want her to know I don't have it together and may never have it all together. I don't know a mother out there that has it all together but everything we do is done with love for our children and that right there makes you the perfect mom and in our children's eyes we most definitely have it all together.

From one exhausted mom to another, you're doing great, have that melt down, let your kids eat the crap out of that cereal and take care of yourself always.

Yes, to ALL of this.

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Needless to say, Fortner's story -- and her realities of being a mom -- resonated with a lot of people. It's been shared almost 90,000 times and has over 153,000 likes.

Fortner's message is one that every mom needs to hear over and over again. From admitting frozen pizza and cereal might be what's on the menu for the day, to revealing how often forgetfulness rears its ugly head -- I've been here. Hell, we've all been there.

I'm the mom of a 3-year-old and a 1½-year-old, and trust me, it's no walk in the park. I know all parenting journeys are different, but there's something about this mom's honest sentiments that ring true in my life.

No matter how hard I try to "have it all together," I often fall short. The dirty dishes can pile up in the sink. I can forget to replenish our empty snack cabinet when I go to the store. And, like Fortner, I (and damn near every mom I know) shop with my kids, praying to God that they stay entertained and behaved during our trip so we can get in and get out. People tell me how much I look like I have it all together, and I just laugh at the notion, because there's really no such thing as having it all together.

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Moms might get the "evil eye" when their kids act like kids in public, or they might get looked down upon for not making every item their child eats with gluten-free, organic products, but the reality is that these things don't make us bad moms. At the end of the day, we're all trying our best, and our best doesn't always have to be 100 percent perfect.

From one mom who sometimes hurries out the house and forgets the diaper bag to another, thank you, Cierra, for your honesty.

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