We're All Work-From-Home Moms

"So you're just a stay-at-home mom?"

If I had a dime for every time I’ve been asked this, I could buy myself a new set of yoga pants.


There always seems to be some sort of tension between the moms who work outside of the home, moms who work from home, and moms who stay home. One sounds less prestigious than the other. Being “just” a stay-at-home mom comes with images of a woman wearing pajamas all day while scrubbing yogurt out of the carpet and washing freshly peed-on sheets at two in the morning.

For some reason, those sacrificial acts of motherhood aren’t often seen as worthy of the title “work-from-home mom.” That’s just what you do as a stay-at-home mom, so, therefore, it’s not real work. It’s not like a SAHM brings in money by writing or selling stuff on Etsy or being a virtual assistant. Since she doesn’t bring in money, she isn’t considered to be working from home.

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And that’s bullshit.

We’re all work-from-home moms.

Earning money is the wrong way to discern if you are or not. Being a mom is work. It’s early morning wake-ups with a child suffering from an ear infection. It’s making meals that will be thanklessly hurled to the floor in a tantrum. It’s sitting with your fourth grader while he whines and moans through doing his homework. It’s doing laundry, overseeing bath time, midnight cuddles after a bad dream, and so much more.

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We shouldn’t discount others, or ourselves, because they don’t have an atypical j-o-b. We should respect all parents who are at home with their children, whether they get up early to plug in some numbers for a company, make sales during the afternoon, or put clean sheets on their kids’ bed before bedtime.

We all have something to offer, some greater good we put out into the world, even if you don’t get a check every week. It doesn’t mean you’re any less of a work-from-home mom. Be proud of what you do every minute of every day.


Toni Hammer shared this post from Is It Bedtime Yet? with CafeMom as part of our mothlong tribute to moms for Mother's Day. Toni never planned on having kids, but she's now a stay-at-home mom to Lillian and Levi who were born 355 days apart because the universe has an awesome sense of humor She chronicles her mommy misadventures at Is It Bedtime Yet? and a book of the same name is being pitched to publishers right this very second. She writes for Scary Mommy, Babble, and Huffington Post, and watches a lot of Friends. If you’re a fellow social media addict, you can find her trying to be funny on Facebook and Twitter. She drowns her mommy guilt in copious amounts of coffee and Diet Coke.

Images via Toni Hammer; design by Anne Meadows

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