Dear Mom, I’m Sorry #PutYourHeartToPaper

Darcy and her mom

Dear Mom,

First of all, I want to apologize. Only now do I realize what a challenge raising me must have been. If I had been your first, I’m not sure if you would have wanted any more children. (I kid, of course you would have wanted several more of me!) Our relationship has seen its fair share of bumps over the years, but I’m glad we’re both on Team Mom now.

When I was a little kid, I loved playing with you. I loved making you smile and laugh and having the attention on me. Some things were complicated and emotionally difficult for me, like not understanding why my sisters could only visit sometimes. That couldn’t have been easy to answer or address.


As I grew up, I struggled with being smart and geeky. I was self-conscious. I was embarrassed about being poor. I know you did your best to take care of me and it must have stung at times. In my teen years...well, you know what happened. I pushed you away in anger and tried my damndest to exert my independence. Things didn’t really calm down until I went to college, when I finally admitted to myself how much I missed you.

When I gave birth to Aerissa, you welcomed me into Club Motherhood with open arms. You empowered me and my parenting choices. When I became a mother, not only did I transform as a person, but our relationship evolved as well. I saw you in a new light. A whole new perspective.

A new understanding washed over a mix of happy and sad memories. I’ve come to realize throughout my entire life:

You encouraged me.

You supported me.

You sacrificed for me.

You showed me strength.

You never gave up on me.

Regardless of how I felt about certain things at the time, I have a new appreciation for you. I’m sorry we went through such a roller coaster, but am glad we’re close now.

Also, it’s kind of fun to see that knowing look in your eye when your granddaughter is acting like a young Darcy. When I vent to you about how she’s asking me a million questions and won’t ever stop talking, you get it. Because I did it to you.

Now let’s just hope she doesn’t put me through everything I put YOU through, am I right?

Love always,


The words don’t always come easy when we want to say more than “thank you” and “I love you.” Everyone likes to know they are appreciated. Let Hallmark help you put your heart to paper this Mother’s Day.

What would you like to say to your mom?


Darcy Zalewski of Darcy and Brian knew exactly how she was going to parent until she actually had kids. While on maternity leave her job was eliminated, taking her from case manager to toy manager. Daily she’s learning how to juggle two kids under four, battle toy clutter and find ways to laugh at herself so she doesn’t go crazy. 

Image courtesy of the writer

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