Mom Who Wants Her Daughter to Be a Lesbian Is Just Like You & Me

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Is it just us or does the Internet sometimes seem like nothing more than a forum where insults are traded, judgments rained down, and venom  collectively spewed? Case in point: When the Washington Post published an essay by a gay writer, declaring that she hopes her six-year-old daughter also grows up to be a lesbian, the Internet burst into flames. Our take: everyone should Just. Calm. Down.


At the very beginning of her essay, Sally Kohn, a political commentator for CNN, clearly explains her thinking: "If we went to college, we want our kids to go to college. If we like sports, we want our kids to like sports...I'm gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too."

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Every parent has to understand this logic. If something has made us deeply happy in life, we feel compelled to at least try to pass it on to our children, and instill the same passion in them.

Have you ever met a die-hard Dallas Cowboys fan who told his kids, "Eh. Root for the Redskins. I don't care."

I love reading and traveling and chocolate. And I am thrilled that my kids feel the same. I also think soda is disgusting and takes years off your life, so I am trying -- trying! -- to also get my kids to ride that bandwagon. In short, we just can't help but push our likes and dislikes, our deepest desires and even some of our fears on to our children. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think that's called "parenting."

Sure, Kohn's essay is admittedly tackling bigger issues than foodstuffs or how her daughter spends her Sunday afternoons. She's talking about a lifestyle that many people are uncomfortable with. Or, in Kohn's own words, find "pitiable." (Scroll through the 2,500+ comments below her essay and see for yourself.)

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But as Kohn explains, "All I really care about is that [my daughter] has the choice and that whatever choice she makes is enthusiastically embraced and celebrated."

And isn't that what all parents should do? Support our children wholeheartedly, even if we don't always agree with them?

I hope Kohn lets her daughter read this essay. (Although she might be horrified to realize that the older boy she recently had a crush on was so embarrassed by her attention that Kohn found it "painful" to watch.) But in its essence, this essay is nothing more than a moving example of how deeply a parent can want their child to be happy.

Keep moving, haters. Nothing to see here.

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