10 Hardest Moments for Working Moms

Judy Dutton | Oct 20, 2014 Being a Mom

Everyone knows being a working mom is hard ... but unless you've been there, juggling a kid in one arm and a client on the phone in another, it may not sink in just how hard, or the sheer variety of heart-wrenching choices you face. But hey, since commiseration can be comforting, we asked working moms to share their lowest lows so you can know without a doubt you're not alone. You can also cite these examples to your stay-at-home mom friends so they can walk in your shoes for a moment and learn that the grass is by no means greener where you stand. In other words, this slideshow below will promote sympathy and understanding and some good mommy bonding all round (after a good cry of course). Enjoy!

What's the hardest part of being a working mom for you?

 

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  • The Day Care Drop-off

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    Talk about a great start to the morning: you pry your kid off your leg at day care, even though he's screaming and begging you to stay. Once you escape, you lock yourself in the car ... and bawl your eyes out. Every day.

  • Missing Those 'Firsts'

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    With all the time you're clocking at the office rather than with your kid, you're bound to miss a few key breakthroughs. First steps. First word. First poop in the potty. First ballet recital or baseball game. Hearing the news from your nanny feels simultaneously exciting and like a kick in the stomach.

  • The PTA Bake Sale

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    Bake? Heck, working moms don't even have time to cook their kids dinner. In an attempt to fake homemadeness, you buy cupcakes at a local bakery and place them on a plate, furtively hiding the wrappers in your car. You walk into school thinking you've got them all fooled ... until you see another working mom's "homemade cupcakes" that look just like yours. Oops. Better try an out-of-town bakery next time.

  • The Gap

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    Meaning the time between when school ends and summer camp begins, or between when summer camp ends and school starts. Scrambling to find child care during these weeks is the worst. 

  • Ordering Takeout for Dinner

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    For the fifth time that week. All the local restaurants know you by name and what you'll order. They think it's funny, but you're downright mortified: what kind of mom allows their kids to subsist on Domino's and Egg Roll Express? Isn't this the kind of behavior that's behind the childhood obesity epidemic?

  • Getting Grief From Your Kid

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    Hearing your kids say you're the ONLY mom who misses school plays or soccer tournaments because you have to work. As guilt descends on you like a shroud, you slip your kid a $20 or promise her those cowboy boots she's been pining for. Then you beat yourself up for caving to bribery, since only bad moms use money to assuage their kids.

  • When Your Kid Is Sick

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    And, of course, it's right on the day you have a major client meeting, pivotal presentation, or just a ton to do at the office. Staying home could hold your career back, yet abandoning your kid when he's feverish and home alone seems monstrous. This is balancing work and family at its worst. No matter which choice you make, it hurts.

  • Lack of Play Dates

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    Stay-at-home moms have plenty of time to schedule play dates for their kids. Your child, on the other hand, is often alone. Watching your lonely, friendless kid play quietly by himself is SO sad, you consider getting a dog or giving birth to another kid just to give him some company.

  • Deciding What to Do When You Get Home

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    Trying to decide, when you get home, whether to cook dinner, do some much-needed housecleaning, crash on the couch, or play Candy Land with your poor neglected kid. Whatever you choose, you feel screwed.

  • Letting Bedtime Slide

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    You're exhausted and dying for some quiet time, but your kid refuses to go to sleep ... so you give in, just so you can spend a little bit more time with him, only knowing deep down that you'll pay for it the next morning when you have to drag him out of bed and pry him off your leg at day care, again.

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