Working Moms Need a Sex Change if They Want to Get Some Respect

I hate to burst your bubble on hump day, but I have some discouraging news to share, working moms. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't ... and I have scientific proof.

According to a new study, flexible schedule requests at work are benefiting dads more than moms. A sociology professor at Furman University surveyed nearly 700 people and the results were shocking: Dads who ask for a flexible work schedule or to work from home twice a week are viewed as more committed, more competent, more worthy of a promotion, and ... get this ... more likeable compared to equally qualified moms who ask for the same thing.

But wait ... it gets worse.


Nearly 70 percent of study participants said they would "likely" or "very likely" say yes to a dad who wanted to work from home twice a week for childcare reasons. Only 57 percent of those surveyed would give moms the same treatment. Twenty-five percent of dads who work flex hours were viewed as "extremely likeable" compared to just 3 percent of moms. And 15.5 percent of moms who asked for flexibility were labeled as "not very" committed to their jobs compared to just 2.3 percent of dads.

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So, to recap: Working moms, we're screwed. On average, women are paid 77 cents on the dollar compared to men. We have the whole glass ceiling issue to deal with ... especially after we have children. And now we're even on the short end of the stick when it comes to work/life balance. Somehow, dads who request flex time are superheroes, but we are unlikable slackers. When will it ever end?

This study is so disconcerting because it reinforces old stereotypes moms can't seem to shake. Basically, employers feel we can't possibly put our jobs first if we're home ... that we will always give snack preparation, temper tantrums, and board games the edge even if we're on the company payroll. Dads will plop their kids in front of the television or do whatever needs to be done to complete the work because they are still viewed as breadwinners.

How can we overcome this thinking? Time doesn't seem to be on our side. It's 2014 and it still persists. When will moms get the respect we've earned in the workplace? Do you think it will ever happen?

How are dads treated at your workplace?

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