Why Being a Mom Defines Who I Am

Loud mouth Katie Hopkins has done it again. And by that I mean she said something inflammatory in a public forum, thus rousing the interwebs to either egg her on in her nonsense, or call her out for being a jerky jerk that says jerky things.

The former contestant on the British version of The Apprentice has made waves in the past for saying she won’t let her kids play with other kids she considers “beneath them,” and also for saying ginger babies are harder to love. This time she went after stay-at-home-moms, declaring over Twitter, “Full time mummy is not an occupation. It is merely a biological status.”


Well ok then. She tweeted that little gem on Monday, and got plenty of attention for it, because there aren’t many ways better for getting attention than launching a grenade into the Mommy Wars.

Hopkins added insult to injury in a blog post Tuesday, basically droning on about how insignificant mothers are, and how women should be at real work, instead of staying home and raising the next generation.

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In her rant against moms that actually find some satisfaction and accomplishment in parenting, Hopkins elaborated her opinion:

“Being a mum is just a biological status update - albeit it more permanent than some of the updates to my relationship status. It doesn't define you, doesn't earn you a living and certainly doesn't make you an interesting person to sit next to at dinner.”

Sounds like somebody has quite the chip on her shoulder. I wonder if she knows that her three kids (ages nine, eight, and five) will someday be able to read the things she posted about on the internet about how insignificant motherhood is? She better be stocking their therapy jars, is all I’m saying.

But let’s talk about her assertion that motherhood doesn’t define you, won’t earn you a living, and makes you a boring old fuddy-duddy. Because motherhood does define me, and I’m not only OK with that, I’m proud of it.

Furthermore, it does, in a way, provide me with a living as a mom blogger. My kids are a constant source for story ideas, and the fact that I’m a parent has connected me with endless opportunities for job advancement. Parents relate to one another (unless your name is Katie Hopkins, of course), and the common bond of shared experience has opened up avenues for me that may have remained closed otherwise.

As for being an interesting dinner companion? How many people can say they once had a lively discussion with former Vice President’s daughter Liz Cheney about potty training? I can.

So maybe motherhood isn’t glamorous, and it certainly doesn’t pay well, and maybe you couldn’t call it an occupation, per se -- but that’s only because it’s so much more than that. Becoming a mom is the greatest roll I’ve ever tackled, and I have nothing but pity for folks like Hopkins who seem to have missed the entire point.

Do you think motherhood is more than an occupation?


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