Talking About Sex With Your Kids Shouldn't Be a Special Occasion

Let's Talk MonthMost people connect October with Halloween or these days, Breast Cancer Awareness month. But apparently now, it's also Let's Talk Month. As in, to quote Salt and Pepa, "Let's talk about sex."
And while I believe that talking to our kids and teens about sex is important, we shouldn't just be limiting the talk to one month.



I admit that I'm glad Planned Parenthood is making such a big deal about talking to kids about sex because it really should be. Like many adults, as a kid, my parents completely ignored the conversation, probably due to discomfort and embarassment, and so I went through my childhood years, into high school, even college not clearly understanding how sex really worked, not just physically, but emotionally as well.

What, you mean oral sex isn't just when you talk about it?

And even worse, I never really felt comfortable talking to my parents about sex, something I know I don't want to happen with my own kids.

The problem is that the sex talk needs to start earlier than the teenage years. And as I wrote in my sex book for parents, the sex talk should be a fluid conversation that happens all the time so that your kids feel comfortable coming to you when they need to. Not just when your kids ask you questions. Not just when your child has sex education at school. And certainly not just during a specific month.

So let's take this opportunity to start the conversation and continue it. Not just because Planned Parenthood or Sex in the City's Cynthia Nixon says so. But because it's an important part of being a good parent to our kids, and making them responsible adults.

How and when are you talking to your own kids about sex?


Photo via Planned Parethood


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