Mother Nature, Not Parents, Should Decide a Baby's Gender

Before you had kids, did you kind of have it in your head that you were going to have a certain number of boys or girls? Because most women do. A lot of moms I know had this idyllic picture in their minds of their perfect little family complete with one boy, one girl, a dog, a cat, and a house with a white picket fence in the yard, or something to that effect.

Of course, whether or not you wind up with a boy or girl is really Mother Nature's decision, not yours, right? Maybe, maybe not. Because there are a few methods of trying to choose your baby's sex that have been known to work for some in the past. And even though I may have thought differently about it before I got pregnant and had a child, I now know that trying to go against what is meant to be by attempting to choose your baby's sex seems just plain wrong.


I won't lie -- when I was pregnant, I was dead set on the notion that I was going to have a baby girl and I was going to braid her hair and take her shoe shopping and throw her an incredible bridal shower and all that good stuff. But then when the ultrasound at 20 weeks showed that we were expecting a bouncing baby boy instead, I was a little bit confused and worried that I wouldn't have the slightest clue of what to do with him, because I always thought of myself as a "girl mom."

But I can honestly tell you that as I sit here six years later, on my son's birthday (weird coincidence), I was absolutely destined to have that little boy in my life. And even though I'm completely done having kids and I know that means that I will never have the little girl that I'd always dreamed of, I know that having a son is what was meant to be. And if I ever did have a change of heart and decide to have another child, there's just no way in hell that I'd monkey with things by trying funky methods of conception to choose my baby's sex.

Attempting to choose your baby's gender can't be seen as anything less than selfish and controlling. It's basically just a fancy way of saying, "I want a baby, but only if it's one sex instead of the other. I really have no interest in this child if it doesn't turn out exactly the gender that I want it to be." A baby is a blessing and a total miracle, which are two things that you really just can't pre-determine. You get what you're supposed to get when it comes to your baby, and you shouldn't try and alter fate in any way, shape, or form. Period.

Did you go to any special lengths to have a better chance of having a boy over a girl or vice versa?


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