Mom-Bashing Starts Before Your Baby Is Even Born

pregnant silhouetteThink of it as the dark side of being a mother: The relentless mom-bashing. You haven't even given birth to your baby yet, and already you've probably experienced some degree of unwanted criticism. Oh, you're taking X prenatal vitamins instead of Y? or, Hmm, that birthing class sounds ... interesting. Take Rachel Uchitel, for example. Poor girl barely had a chance to announce her pregnancy before everybody got on her case about the "outrageously expensive" items on her baby registry, including $300 "nipple suckers" (which turned out to be parts for a regular old breast pump).

Or Jessica Simpson, who got blasted for wearing high heels while pregnant. Or Beyoncé for her supposedly bizarre pregnancy cravings.

It's unfair, annoying, and mean-spirited. And just wait until after you have that baby ...


Perhaps you'll be doing something completely normal, like breastfeeding your baby, when some NASCAR d-bag like Kasey Kahne walks by and decides to tweet his disgust to the world. Or maybe you'll do something else completely normal (not to mention necessary) like, say, go to work and the internet-at-large will attack you for caring more about money than you do your child. (Grrrr.)

Or, who knows, maybe you'll be writing about something like education reform or a ground beef recall when some male blogger thoughtlessly lumps you in with another blogger whose opinions are the polar opposite of yours simply because you're both "mommies."

I could go on, but the point I'm trying to make is this: For some reason, our society reserves the worst of its spite and venom for mothers. There is no group judged as harshly, no demographic so readily demonized, no segment of the population torn apart with such sick pleasure as moms.

I don't know why this is the case. I suspect it has something to do with the fact that so many of us are resentful of our own mothers for some reason or another. Blame the mother!

Again, it's unfair, annoying, and mean-spirited -- but never as unfair, annoying and mean-spirited as when mothers turn against mothers.  Are we so insecure in our own parenting abilities that we have to cut down other moms? Because surely we can't be deluding ourselves into thinking we're being "helpful" by offering our snide, unsolicited "advice" every time someone has a different opinion on child-rearing from our own.

I'm sorry this is the way it has to be right now. I'm sorry for myself, but even sorrier for you, because I'm already used to this crap. You'll get used to it, too. Just don't let it get you down.

Why do you think our society gives moms such a hard time?

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