Laughing at Your Cursing Kid Doesn't Make You a Bad Mom

washing mouth out with soapFor a rich socialite with a publishing deal, Jill Kargman is having it rough these days. Seems she admitted to the world that her now 8-year-old daughter once dropped the F-bomb on the playground, and she didn't exactly condemn her for it. Well OK, actually Kargman joked that at least little Sadie used the word in "context." Now she's been called out in the New York Post as the "WTF Mom."

I'll be honest. If my kid did that, I'd be laughing in public too. But I'd be crying in private. And probably wracking my brain for which adult in her life let that one slip.

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We have been there in my house. My daughter was probably 2 1/2 when she informed me that my decision to force her to eat the soup I'd made for dinner was "BS." Only she didn't use the socially appropriate acronym. She was, however, using it in context, just like Kargman's kid.

I know exactly where she learned it, and let's just say it was not in my house. I joked about it a lot over the next few weeks, but I'd be lying if I told you I wasn't smarting on the inside.

Kids cursing are funny! If it happens once, twice ... it's not shameful because it does happen. Kids are sponges. They hear everything, even when we think they're tuned in to that pile of Play-Doh or box of blocks. And it's not only us they hear but their grandparents, that guy doing construction across the street, the woman on her cellphone in the grocery store. Shielding them from every influence is impossible.

But when the curses actually start flowing, parenting comes in. It's our jobs to teach them that cursing is not something that's done in school or at granny's house. It's not a way to express yourself in polite company.

I know even as I type this that I sound like a prude. I'm boring. I'm not a fun mom.

Guilty as friggin' charged folks. I'm a boring @ss motha-trucka ... also known as the mom who doesn't want to support her 25-year-old because she's been barred from every boardroom with her trash mouth. I'm the mom who doesn't want to play with her kid every day because no one will host the bad influence at a playdate.

It doesn't matter what I think of cursing. What matters is how society treats it. Today, in 2011, cursing is not acceptable in schools or office buildings. You need to correct them after you get your giggles in.

Laughing at your kid's cursing is fine. It's what you do after it that marks you as a "good" parent or "bad."

What do you think? Is it bad to laugh at your kid's cursing? Or is it a normal response, provided you do something about it?

 

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