I'm Pregnant & Being Taken Advantage Of By My Toddler

pregnant with childI'm not the strictest mom on earth, but what I say goes. I have my whole counting to three technique I got from Super Nanny and my 3-year-old and I have a nice routine for our semi-complicated lives. I should say HAD a nice routine.

In the last few weeks, I've grown increasingly tired in my pregnancy. I cannot bend over. I certainly cannot pick my daughter up. Most importantly, mentally and emotionally I no longer have the stamina I've had most of her life.

This may just be par for the course, but the problem is that my first kid has my number and is taking advantage of me. I'm not sure if I should be proud of her or pissed.


Maybe it's because this time I'm 36, but I just don't have the same kind of energy I had with my first pregnancy. I've become soft in my old pregnancy age. When I picked my daughter up from school last week, she refused to get in her car seat. This is something that hasn't happened for six months. Normally, I figure out a way to distract her without giving in to her, but this time, I just stood there, staring at her. I couldn't give in for her safety and obviously she cannot stay at school -- but I didn't know what to do.

I lost my capacity to parent, ironically, because I'm going to be a parent again.

When I go to get her dressed in the morning, it takes twice as long. I just don't have the power to make her do it any faster. I am letting a lot more go and my kid has caught on. My husband has stepped in to help. He tells her to listen to her mother. While I appreciate the support, I think it just takes more power away from me. Do I really need a man to second my request? Not the best message.

I'm hoping that once baby comes, I'll get my groove back, but I worry that I will be even more tired and more distracted taking care of the new baby. I don't want all my hard work to go out the window. I'm very proud of my respectful toddler. I don't want her to become a disrespectful kid.

Did this happen to anyone else? How did you re-establish your authority?

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