Liz Lange: 6 Questions About Motherhood
Maternity clothes and fashion -- two words that go together well thanks to designer Liz Lange, who also knows a good price point, too. Lange is the exclusive maternity designer for Target.
Her philosophy is that women should look and feel beautiful during pregnancy and I couldn't agree more.
Liz took some time away from her life in NYC, where she lives with her husband and two children (son Gus is 10, daughter Alice is 8), to talk with us about motherhood.
What is the most important lesson that being a mother has taught you?
I think the most important lesson is as entrepreneur, I'm used to controlling everything. As mother, I realize things I can't control and have to go with it. At the beginning when juggling two young children and a growing business, I thought I would have to be very specific with a schedule -- I'll be at office this time -- but kids are not predictable. When I wake up in morning, sometimes things come up that we can never anticipate and schedule. One might be sick, one needs you and I need to drop whatever is planned be in the moment with my children.
I am not a "go with the flow" type of person. I like everything planned but my children have really taught me the art of going with things as with kids you have no choice. Often I will plan something for us, like a trip to the park on a beautiful day, and I will realize that they are too tired or truly don't feel like it and it will occur to me that in that moment even though the park on a nice day seems like the perfect plan to me, it isn't to them.
How has the state of the world today affected your view of motherhood?
I can't say that I feel that's its affected view on motherhood or being a mother. I'm a very optimistic person, hard to be an entrepreneur and not be optimist. Grew up in NYC where I'm raising my children, and think we live in a wonderful place and best country in world and I feel great about our future and their future. Financially, for everyone, it's a year of rethinking certain expenses.
What's the best part of being a mom?
The opportunity to having children allows me to go back to my own childhood. I see the world through their eyes and it's new and fresh again. We grow up and get jaded -- it's exciting to see the view children have toward things, My kids are 8 and 10. I still feel they are so innocent and their lack of jadedness and they have things that still fill them with wonder and excitement.
In March we had a snowstorm in the city that I was thinking was a huge drag, but then I saw my children running to the window shrieking with delight over the heavy snowflakes and I remembered how fun and exciting snow used to feel!
What's the most important parenting lesson you learned from your own mother?
My mother was very good, it was different time, but she was good at setting limits and I don't think I understood and appreciated that as a child very much. As a parent, I understand how important and helpful that is to children for them to feel comfort and safe...the parent in control. When I need to be stricter and draw the line, I think about that. Today, so much more, everything is looser. Some nights I find myself making 15 different dinners before putting the kids to bed. My mother never did that. We at e dinner and if we were hungry, we had a bigger breakfast. I'm trying to emulate more of that.
How do you plan to spend Mother's Day this year?
I can't say that Mother's Day is a huge celebrating in our family, but I'd love it to be one. We live in the city, but have a weekend home in Westchester. I'm very close to my sister and she has two daughters the same age -- [we are all] extremely close. We'll go to their house or ours, my mother lives in NYC, too.
What is your greatest wish for your children?
I want them to be happy. I feel I've been really lucky in life that I found something as work that I love to do. I sometimes feel I do have it all and want them -- whatever that means -- to find that contentment in their life. Find work that makes them feel fulfilled and that they are passionate about, and I hope they find love relationships that make them happy.
Thanks, Liz! It really is those little things, like seeing the beauty and excitement in a snowfall, that helps keeps our spirit alive and happy. Let's think about those little things, or moments, where we see beauty. Share yours!