Ask Your Mom These Questions

Me & mom circa late 70s/early 80s

I feel very blessed to have the mom that I have. She has always been very real and honest with me and I can tell her anything. OK, I didn't tell her everything when I was younger, but now, I can. She is my best friend and the most beautiful woman in the world to me and also to my sister, Jennifer.

OK, tissues please.

In May's Real Simple, Judith Newman, author of You Make Me Feel Like an Unnatural Woman: Diary of a New (Older) Mother, wrote about the 10 questions you can ask mom to find out the things you may never have thought to ask.

So I asked my mom. Here are her answers....


What's the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?
I wish I had spent more time playing with you both and less time cleaning.

Why did you choose to be with my father?

He was cute and sweet.

Which one of us do you like best? OK, tell me how Jennifer and I are different or what you like about us?
Growing up, Jennifer seemed to be shy; you were outgoing. Jennifer liked being with me; you liked lots of company. Now that you are grown up, I admire your levelheadedness, your ability to look at things from a different prospective. Now that I think of it, you both have those qualities, which I admire greatly.

In what ways do you think I'm like you?

I think we are alike in the sense that you want our family to stay close and love each other through thick and thin.

Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?
I hope you are as blessed as I am when it comes to having such great daughters.

Do you think it's easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?
I don't think it's easier or harder -- it all depends on the circumstances.

Is there anything you regret not having asking your parents?
I think I got to ask my dad almost everything I wanted to ask him. My mom, well, you didn't ask.

What's the best thing I can do for you right now?

Enjoy your life; love your husband.

Is there anything that you wish has been different between us -- or that you would still like to change?
I think we had the normal ups and downs of the mother daughter relationship, which could be tricky, but I wouldn't change a thing. You have given me great joy.

When did you realize you were no longer a child?                                                        When my father died. I was no longer anyone's child.

To all moms, Happy Mother's Day!

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