Embracing Gray Hair

Going Gray Anne Kreamer

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Gray hair. It's one of those signs of getting older, yet many of us get grays at a very young age. Anne Kreamer had her first battle with grey at age 27...and for 24 years, she dyed her hair -- spending an estimated $65,000 on hair maintenance during that time. Wow!

One day, Kreamer decided to stop covering up the gray and she embarked on a social experiment to see people's perceptions of a woman who embraced her salt and pepper shade.

In her book, Going Gray: How to Embrace Your Authentic Self with Grace and Style, Kreamer explores how her hair was truly an extension of herself. She did the following:

  • Posted identical profiles of herself on Match.com, one with gray hair, the other with her locks Photoshopped brown.
  • Went out in social settings to see if she could attract men when her hair was gray.
  • Interviewed for work.
  • Met with professional image consultants telling them she wanted to re-enter the workforce and wanted guidance. 

She learned that gray hair wasn't necessarily a setback. And like she says in one chapter...maybe gray is the new black?

It's a really great read, kind of like Nora Ephron's I Feel Bad About My Neck and Other Thoughts on Being a Woman with a mission to change perceptions of beauty.

What are your thoughts about going gray?

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mamak57 mamak57

i embraced my silver when it out numbered my blonde. I haven't colored my hair in over a year and i am a hair dresser. In high school the halo effect was in style so my front was frosted heavily and the back natural blonde now the front is naturaly white and i love it. It is a family trait on my grampa's saide. my gramma was 84 and had chocolate brown hair  the day she passed. i know it was real cuase iw as her hair dresses and i know for sure

Momma... MommaTasha1003

Im only 25 but when i do get greys i wont hide them. ive always loved seeing grey hair & think it is beautiful!! I keep telling my mom she should try to go natural but she refuses.

CherB... CherBearCM

I am 35, my hair is 50-90 gray depending on which area of my head you're looking at!  Honestly I just feel I am too young too embrace my gray, lol.  And I'm currently pregnant with my 2nd child, I don't think he needs people thinking I'm his grandma, which is exactly what happened to my mom when she embraced her gray at 41, my sister was 2 at the time and everyone thought my mom was her grandma!

ables... ablessedlife

I tried to embrace my grey (almost 50% at age 35).  I didn't colour for 1.5 years even though I was having babies.  But I had a hard time managing the wirey grey hairs.  I always looked unkempt and tired.  I spent a lot of time trying new styles that would make me look decent.  Then one day I coloured again.  Now I spend less time on my hair, I wash and go.  I feel more like myself.  I just chose a colour closest to my natural.  I envy women who look good in their silver. 

dansu... dansuehath

My hair started to turn grey over night about 6 months after i started working at the Humane Society. The Doctor said it was stress related.First it was skunk stripes which was OK my husband thought they were sexy but then I had  more so I started Dying it. About 2 years ago i had a difficult surgery & my hair started to fall out & DR said no more dye, so I quit. I'm in that transition period now from the top to my shoulders is greying & the bottom half to my butt is still red!frown mini

Irish... Irishbtch622

I have had grey hair since I was 13 n I mean white hair not grey.My mom let me start dying it at 15-16 n been doing it ever since.First of all I am like 90% white now after a few surgerys my hair was thinning more than what it was .so my hair dresser started coloring my hair lighter n lighter till it could handle hi lites n it looks so better.It is healthier n beutifu.It took a little over a yr but wy worth it girls.So gratuful found a hair dresser that new what she was doing :)       Irishbtch622      pink ribbon

jblue... jblueeyes228

 I started graying at 12yrs. old and kept it grey  for many , many years. Then died it black, but the dying every 3 wks, got to me. I cut it short and died it blond so I would only have to dye it every 5 or 6 months. OOYY, What I did For Beauty

sminke sminke

I've had Grey - not the nice silver color - since I was about 16 or so.  It was a gradual progression until I had my daughter 7 years ago, and then I was completely grey at 36.  I was fine with it, until I had an older gentleman - that I know - comment on how nice it was to see such a young grandmother with her new grandchild, and where was the childs mother.  After that, once I was no longer breatsfeeding, I tried coloring my hair.  My husband's comment was that I looked so much younger.  I don't know how long I will color my hair, but I get lots of compliments on my hair color.  People assume that it's my natural color, because it is close enough to my daughters hair color.   The funniest part is that my 7 yr old daughters hair looks like it has been highlighted - but it's all natural!  LOL!!!

redemom redemom

I am only 30 and have a ton of gray hair. I am to vain to let my gray grow. 80s pink

irish... irishcoffee

I love my silver hair - my gramma had beautiful white hair and I'm hoping I get to go there!

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