Women of All Sizes Are Sick & Tired of the Pressure to Look Perfect

tess holliday selfieBombshell model Tess Holliday has never been one to be shy about embracing her size (a 22, for the record). It has led to her being one of the top plus-sized models in the world -- and one of the most outspoken in calling for designers to be more inclusive of all size customers. But being a positive role model doesn't shield Tess from feeling the pressure to look perfect.


Nor does it prevent her from feeling like she has to answer to her critics, which she did in a Facebook status update yesterday. The post has since gone viral.

I've heard that I don't "represent" plus bodies a lot recently & it makes me sad. Unfortunately, I'm literally the ONLY...

Posted by Tess Holliday on Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Upon reading Tess's statement, I couldn't help but think about Australian model Essena O'Neill, who recently decided to bail on being Instagram-famous for her "perfect" body. At only 18 years old, O'Neill has already realized that the endless pursuit of looking perfect is exhausting and depressing -- even for the most genetically blessed and/or workout-obsessed.

If women from all sides of the size spectrum are speaking up about the pressure to look a certain way and are acknowledging how manipulated media images are, maybe this will be the moment that we all decide to get a little more sane about looking perfect.

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And, let's be honest -- sanity is needed here.

I'm tired of hearing women apologize to each other for things like not wearing makeup at preschool open house or not dressing up at the park. I'm tired of "candid" selfies that have been through three filters, and of being called "brave" for posting pictures of my plus-sized self in a leotard at dance class. I'm tired of the fact that my friends, who are all smart, funny, and caring, feel like they don't measure up to all the media portrayals of stars who look flawless just weeks after having a baby.

Mostly, I'm tired of the fact that men don't do this to themselves. I guarantee you that none of the men in my life have ever apologized to their guy friends for the state of their skin or the amount of stubble on their faces.

Let's stop the crazy. Can we all agree that happy and healthy and independent are far more achievable and sustainable as goals?

So, don't touch up that selfie. Post pictures that make your heart happy, even if they are taken from a "bad" angle. Remember that your value as a person, a mother, a friend, a partner, a coworker, a daughter, has nothing to do with the shape of your thighs or the smoothness of your skin. You are SO MUCH MORE than any social media image could ever show.


Image via tessholliday/Instagram

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