Biting the Bullet on This 'Embarrassing' Beauty Treatment Changed My Life

woman getting laser treatmentLet's be honest: New Year's resolutions are often linked to how we feel ... and look. Too bad we have such a screwed up perception of beauty, making things so much harder. Not only do we feel like we have to look like women who are often airbrushed, but we're often too proud to "resort" to plastic surgery or other cosmetic treatments. We look at celebs who admit to it and think what they're doing is ridiculous, superficial, unnecessary, and easy to overdo and end up like Wacko Jacko or Joan Rivers.

Plus, shouldn't we all be embracing our natural beauty? Isn't it embarrassing to admit to having to get something about your appearance cosmetically altered? But let me tell you ... when it comes to something like unwanted facial hair, it's a whole different ballgame.

Before I was actually diagnosed with a genetic, PCOS-like hormone imbalance at 23, I self-deprecatingly chalked up my unsightly, dark lady fuzz to my hairy Russian Jewish roots. (No pun intended.) My girlfriends and I would joke about it in high school and cope by making group outings to the local spa to see Dana, our favorite esthetician who would wax our brows, lips, chins, sometimes sideburns. But the more I'd go, the more it seemed like I had to go ... In college, I was introduced to threading, and for years, I was going bi-weekly, feverishly plucking in between. That is, until I made one of the Best Decisions of All Time. 

A couple of months ago, I started going to my doctor for laser hair removal, and the results are totally blowing my mind. And in turn, I feel like I have my life back.

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For example, in the past, I've been out running errands and walked by a mirror at the mall or glimpsed in my visor mirror in the car and noticed peering back at me frightening, dark hairs protruding from or just underneath my light skin! Hello, gross and mortifying. And whoops, if I was sans tweezers, I'd freak until I could figure out a way to remove on the go ... "Oh, just put on a little makeup" used to be my mom's refrain, but that's not enough when you're feeling so self-conscious. Now, because I'm actually getting results, I don't have to worry about that. It's a huge stress reliever.

I'm saving money, because I'm not running to get threaded as often as I had before. I feel more confident getting close with my husband without checking the makeup mirror. My makeup goes on nicer, and my skin is actually looking better, because it turns out that's a positive extra bonus from the treatment!

If you couldn't tell, I am so over-the-moon for having done the "superficial, vain" thing, because it really has changed my life for the better. But I'm not alone. As I found out when talking to friends while writing another beauty story, lots of women are forking over their hard-earned cash for it. We don't always tell our partners where the hair is that we're having removed -- or tell them at all! But we all agree it's so worth it. So why not own it? After all, there should never be any shame in doing something that makes life happier, simpler, and, well, smoother.

How do you feel about plastic surgery and cosmetic treatments like laser hair removal? Have you ever done it -- or would you?


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Coles... Coles_mom

I had it done on my legs years ago and loved it. Never have to shave. :)

nonmember avatar Really?

You lost me at "Wacko Jacko". Have some respect!!!

nonmember avatar A

I've had many skin grafts and on the full thickness grafts I've had done the hair from whatever part of the body the skin is taken from also is transferred to the skin grafts new location. Long story short I had skin from my thighs moved to my neck and chin so now have that hair growing there. Gross I know...sorry. But I had several full laser treatments and after a year or so it would grow back and I'd do it all over again hoping it would last. After 3-4 times I've given up and have to deal with plucking constantly. I've been wondering if it's just from my skin being scarred and grafted but none of my doctors said it would matter. Has Anyone else had the problem of the hair growing back after awhile ? Is there different types of laser hair removal that anyone's had long term success with ?

the4m... the4mutts

I had a tummy tuck that literally changed my life. The results aren't perfect, but they're so much better than the ripped muscles and 6 inches of saggy skin I had before!

I am not too proud to admit that there is no way in hell I would have been caught in yoga class, or in a swimsuit, or even a slightly tight tank top looking the way I did.

I also COULDNT exercise as much as I should have been, because working the ripped muscles caused by a very large baby, was painful.

nonmember avatar Victoria

A- It takes multiple treatments for optimal results. At least 6, for thinner hair, usually 8-10 for thicker hair. Skin tone also effects results, as well as hair color. Lighter hair is harder for the lazer to zap. Light skin with dark hair has best results. I'm currently under going lazer hair removal for the second time, the first set with the old lazer didn't work since I have lighter body hair. After my 1st treatment with the new lazer I already have patches that aren't growing back. Most hair will be patchy throughout the treatment cycles due to where hair is in the growth cycle and when the lazer hits it.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

No one should be embarassed for getting any sort of beauty treatments done as long as they're doing it for the right reasons. I'd go in for laser hair removal in a second if I could afford it :-p

wamom223 wamom223

I went to school for aesthetics and was heart broken with some of the stuff I saw there.  I had one woman that actually had a full beard and would come in to get waxed regularly (this is when the laser was very new) and she would just deal with being self conscious in between.  She dropped by the school one day unexpectedly and told me the President of her company was coming in and she didn't want her first impression to be with beard stubble.  The teacher would not give me credit for helping her so I had to stay after and I twee zed every single hair for her.  She was so emotional and so thankful and I haven't seen her since I graduated but I've always hoped she was able to get laser treatment.  It was so sad to see someone with such a big great personality being held back for something like that.  

Jessy76 Jessy76

I also have PCOS and would LOVE to have lazer hair removal but I can't afford it. It is on my wish list.

wendy... wendywendy

I tried it but it did not work.  I had 8 treatments and it didn't do a thing, I guess my hair is too light?  I'm blonde.  I felt duped.  I had it done because I tend to get 90% of any acne on my chin where the hairs are.  Now I still get acne and my wallet is a few hundred dollars lighter.

wamom223 wamom223

@wendywendy-Over time when you wax an area the hair will just give up and stop growing.  I went to a trade show for the 'Wax Queen' and she said she only had like 6 hairs growing on her body.  If its just your chin you're worried about you should check into beauty schools in your area and that will save you money on the waxing (just ask for a student with experience.)  Ask about a wax for sensative skin so it doesn't irritate any acne.  I'm sorry it didn't work out for you:(


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