New Dove Ad Compares How Women See Themselves vs. Strangers & the Difference Is Shocking

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doveThese days, the conversation about women is dominated by how we balance family with workplace goals and success. But I think there is an equally important topic we need to discuss -- how we feel about the way we look. I know it sounds a bit superficial, but the heart of this matter goes beyond hair color or what kind of lash-extending mascara to buy. It's about the fact that very few of us are truly happy with the way we look and what that really means for us. Dove's new beauty experiment tries to show how tragically skewed the perception of ourselves really is. It's sure to bring tears to your eyes. Take a look.

Women were asked to go into a room and describe themselves to an artist who drew them from that description. Later, someone they had just met also described them. The two sketches couldn't be more different. The women's words painted pictures of sad, overweight, or homely people, when that was far from the case. What other people saw were beautiful, radiant beings. It was clearly a painful moment when these women realized just how they saw themselves.

It's profound, to say the least. There are so many things working against our self-confidence, even if we don't recognize that it's happening. Perhaps a parent commented on a large nose when you were a child or a friend once poked fun at your stringy hair -- those things tend to stay with us and can affect every aspect of our lives. It almost ensures low self-confidence or unconsciously projecting the persona of someone who feels unattractive or inferior.

We can be so harsh and self-deprecating when it comes to our looks and our bodies (myself included). Sometimes we make quips that we pass off as jokes, but we really do have a lot of issues with ourselves. In a way, I think it’s about emotional self-preservation. If we talk about our flaws, we won’t be hurt by the fact that others probably notice them too. But this video was such an eye opener. It shows how much we are actually hurting ourselves.

How did this video make you feel?



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Bryce... Brycesmommy21

That actually made me tear up a bit..... We are our toughest critics and this goes to show how much we focus on things we do not like vs what we should like about ourselves.

tuffy... tuffymama

That brought tears to my eyes. When I was fourteen, a man in the mall asked if he could sketch my portrait and I let him. I didn't recognize it when he was done, but I thanked him. My granddaddy framed it because he said it looked just like me. It took me years and years to realize that drawing actually looked like me at fourteen, and now I have it hanging by my vanity with a high school pic of myself tucked in the frame. I don't know why it wasn't okay with teenaged me to see that I was pretty.

lovem... lovemyson1224

It made me tear up as well. Very interesting.

bills... billsfan1104

I loved te ending when the quote said "you are more beautiful than you think". This resonated with me so much, because I am struggling with my weight gain and my mastsectomy and reconstruction. I feel like I am deformed and ugly.

kisse... kisses5050

 I said to my sister the other day " isnt is new goal weight is my old I cant believe I am so big weight"

PonyC... PonyChaser

Honestly, a year ago, this would have brought me to my knees. I was every one of these women and worse, seeing the absolute worst in myself - I'd have described myself with dull skin, saggy breasts, stringy hair, fat, droopy, thunder-thighs, and ghastly-fat hips.

And then I met someone who thinks I'm absolutely beautiful. He tells me all the time. Points out those things. Gets after me if I get down on myself. He loves me for who I am, every inch of who and what I am. And he's taught me to appreciate my strengths and support my weaknesses, instead of highlighting my weaknesses and downplaying my strengths.

This video, and this exercise, should be part of every young person's life - not just the girls, either. boys have self-image problems, too. And we need to be examples in our children's lives - enough of the "I'm so fat" talk. I don't care if you're 300 lbs., there is something beautiful about you. Find it, celebrate it. And pass it on.

Sierr... SierraLynn

This is amazing. Im in tears.

nonmember avatar Linda

Not me. Other people think I'm older, fatter, uglier than I think I am. Just got fired and evil boss hired a young skinny girl.

Seven... SeventiesChild

This is really true. I take ID photos as part of my job. Women will swear up and down that they look awful and sometimes it is even traumatic for them to get their photo taken. One woman i remember thinking , was quite beautiful even before i knew i would need to take her picture; I thought her hair was a most gorgeous color and style. She was really upset she had to have her photo taken. Meanwhile I, as a stranger,  thought she looked stunning.

Emily Carter Kallas

"Perhaps a parent commented on a large nose when you were a child or a friend once poked fun at your stringy hair -- those things tend to stay with us and can affect every aspect of our lives."

A friend (a gay man) and I used to work at the front desk at a hotel. One day this beautiful 40-something woman checked in with her husband. As she turned to walk out the lobby doors, this friend of mine said, "See... that lady is gorgeous, and she has a big butt too! You have nothing to worry about." Um... I wasn't really worried about it, but thanks?? I always knew I had a nice, round butt, but I had never really thought of it as being big. Since then I always see this massive ass when I look in the mirror, and that happened 12 years ago!

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