My Need to Dress Like a 'Mom' Is Ruining My Style


mini golfingWell, last weekend I finally broke down and did it. I went through my closet and weeded out all of the clothes that I don't wear or don't fit me at the present moment, and I also tossed quite a few pieces I simply have no business wearing anymore because I'm a mom.

OMG. I can't believe those words just came out of my mouth. But sadly, I meant them. There are certain things I just don't feel comfortable wearing anymore because I'm a mother.

Like really short skirts and dresses. Um, can someone please tell me what on earth I was thinking when I purchased anything with a hemline shorter than knee-length in the past couple of years? (Hello -- I'm not 21 anymore.)

I really can't bear the thought of parading around town with my son while wearing something that exposes my upper thighs. I'm 100 percent sure I'll have everyone staring at me wondering why in the heck I'm wearing something that exposes my upper thighs -- because I'm a mom.

So with that thought in mind, I promptly put any piece of clothing I felt fit into that category in the donate pile and decided to only keep those pieces in my wardrobe that look "appropriate" for a 35-year-old mother of a 7-year-old.

And then after a few days, I realized by doing so, I'm pretty much killing my own sense of style and telling myself I have to dress in a way that makes me look less youthful, simply because of how many years I've been on this earth and the fact that I have a kid.

But what really worries me is that if I'm telling myself I can't wear short skirts and dresses at 35 -- what kind of cuts am I going to have to make when I turn 40? Will I be shopping at Chico's by then? (For the record, I have nothing against Chico's. But that's where my moms shops and she's 63. 'Nuff said.)

What is wrong with me?!? Who am I to tell myself what I can and cannot wear? If it fits and doesn't make me look like an over-sized hot dog on a standard sized bun, then who cares?

Apparently I do. And that's why I like my "mom" clothes and I'm sticking to them. (Even if it makes me old and unfashionable.)

Are there things you feel you can't wear because you're a mom?


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Valerie Metzger

I'm going to agree with your first instinct on this one. There's nothing wrong with dressing in age appropriate clothing, even if you are a hot mama. There's a huge difference between dressing like a grandmother, and dressing like you're in college (which is where I personally think super short shorts and dresses/skirts should stay)

nonmember avatar Meg

I wish more people actually dressed their age. I have a friend who wears her 11 year old daughters cloths. I love her like a sister but she looks silly sometimes.

older... oldermomat41

Love it because I recently decided this is the weekend I am going through my closet as well! I am 41 with two young boys. I already weeded out most of my suits and beautiful work clothes when I made the decision to stay home with the kids, although the getting rid of process happened 2 yrs later. Kept a couple of timeless pieces for a just in case moment. Now it is time for crap I haven't worn for years. I agree, it's hard to be stylish. I don't do the short shorts or short skirts but I am always in yoga pants, jeans, life is good t-shirts...nothing very stylish but hell, my day consists of hitting the park, changing poopy diapers, running errands, why would I wear wedge shoes, a Calvin Klein shirt and capri pants?? I am all about comfort, much to the dismay of my husband I am sure! 

Oh and my mom shops at Chico's too, LOL!!!

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

Im 28 and and a mother of 2 kids under 4 yrs and Something that I did have to weed out of my closet was high end jeans. I used to wear True Religions, Hudson's, 7 jeans and the like but since having kids they are too low rise! I bend over to pick up a kid and half my thong is shown to the world! So I switched departments at Nordstrom to Point of View and most of those brands there are hip, stylish and affordable. I look like a relaxed, stay at home mom who is put together. I've always been a jeans and tee shirt kind of girl, but those Abercrombie skirts left my closet like 6 years ago! Lol!

Stephanie Caldwell

I'm right there with you! I need to go through my closet. I think this is why I can't get into the new neon colors that seem to be everywhere. I ordered a pair of slip on shoes from Old Navy thinking they were a coral color (pale-ish) and when they arrived they were Neon orange! I told my husband that I just can't bring myself to wear them. 

koalitah koalitah

Felt exactly the same! A few weeks ago, I opened up my closet and felt that I had many clothes and nothing to wear. Literally. It was very frustrating. Also found several miniskirts, which I'm not comfortable in them anymore, and I decided to get rid of them. It was not easy to find new clothes for me though. Even though I don't want to wear miniskirts, I don't want to shop at Chico's, lol. So, I tried to find clothes that matched my body shape, my size and of course, my age. I don't want to look like a teen, but I sure don't want to look like my grandma as well. Found a website called that recommends clothes according to body shape and I already found some nice pieces.

April... AprilJune

I'm 27 with two kids and totally agree. There is less I can get away with...bending over to pick up babies, sitting on the floor to play, etc. make short skirts or dresses totally out of the question. I have also learned to dress a little "older" because I have shown up to work on casual fridays (I teach) wearing the same sweater as a about embarassing!

kinag7 kinag7

Hmm....power to you.  i've thought about this myself but for me, though b/c i'm a mom doesn't mean I have to be MY mom.  i kept the sassy outfits for "date nights" or other times I thought might deem them appropriate.  Think there's a time and place for everything.  I'm a 35 yr old happy mama of 2...but also a 35 yr old woman that wants to know it's ok to spice it up every now and then too! =)

Angie... AngieHayes

I wear dresses and shorts and stuff like that, just because I am a mom, I don't want to not look attractive. 

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