Woman's Big Plastic Surgery Lie Could Ruin Her Marriage

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A woman I know is getting a facelift. Let's forget the fact that she's in her mid-30s and needs a facelift like Kim Kardashian needs a butt implant. But for some god forsaken reason she's getting one -- and for some other god forsaken reason some doctor has agreed to give it to her. But there's just one problem. She doesn't want to tell her husband that's what she's going to do. For one, she knows he'd disapprove. In fact, he'd be livid. He'd do everything in his power to talk her out of it. But she wants her facelift. So ... she's got a little plan.

This woman is planning on telling her husband that she's going away on business. In fact, he already knows about her business trip. But she's really headed to the plastic surgeon's office, which is out of state.

In order to explain why her face will be puffy, red, black and blue, and covered with a bandage upon her return -- she's going to have an explanation.

She's going to say she got into a car accident.

Wow. Not only is this a huge lie, but it's one she's going to have a difficult time keeping up with. No doubt he's going to pepper her with questions. What, who, how, when??!! Is she going to fake a call from the hospital? Is she going to cry and tell him how scared she was? After all, I would imagine an accident that injures your face would be quite traumatic.

But also, just think about the worry her husband is going to have now. He might worry about her every time she goes on a trip. Every time she gets in the car. And how will she explain how the car accident has made her look years younger than she looked before she got into it?! I really don't think she's thinking this thing through.

I don't think you always are obligated to tell your partner about your little beauty routines -- if you want a shot of Botox here and there and don't want to tell him about it, that's fine. A little lip plumper? A bit of filler around the mouth? Your business. But when you get into major surgery -- I just feel your significant other has the right to know.

One thing is for sure: Lying about your plastic surgery -- even to your spouse -- is becoming more common. And lying is not good for any relationship. Especially a lie as big as saying you were in a life-threatening accident!

I think at the end of the day, what you do with your body is up to you. If you want plastic surgery, you shouldn't be ashamed to say it. Have a mature and reasonable conversation with your husband about it. Listen to his concerns and fears -- he has a right to express them. After all, surgery can be risky, and people have died or had major complications from plastic surgery.

But making up a big old lie about it? Not good.

Would you lie about plastic surgery?


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beauty, body, aging

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Flori... Floridamom96

Wow! Super bad idea!

ruby_... ruby_jewel_04

Uh, thats a terrible idea. WOW. Just wow. I don't tell my husband everything, but this is ridiculous. 

Javi0... Javi05Eli07

That is one heck of a thought out lie and I am curious about what will happen when he finds out the truth.  For most people a lie of that magnatude and the fact that it was planned would be grounds for divorce.  If she has no problem lying about something that big, what else has she and would she lie about.

BabyL... BabyLadyG12

This woman is insane.  I can understand coming up with this "plan" kiddingly--like, my husband doesn't want me to have any work done, so if I ever do, I'll just have to invent an accident requiring reconstructive surgery.  That anyone would actually follow through on this is outrageous.  My husband would divorce me if I pulled a stunt like this, and rightly so!

Tripl... TripleC14

Sounds like a great plan to cause a permanent rift in her marriage over vanity issues.

nonmember avatar blh

That's a stupid idea. Why doesnt she just say hey I'm getting a face lift BC I want yo and its my body. She doesn't need his permission

Shandi80 Shandi80

Your friend sounds a little nutty and it also sounds like she cares more about her face than her husband. If she wants to keep their marriage intact, they should go to counseling, pronto. Why go through all that trouble for such an elaborate lie, when the surgery could end up having complications, forcing her to tell him the truth anyway?

Forget her sounding nutty, I think she's a few crayons short of a box.

PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Bad idea on so many levels. What if there are complications? Who's on her emergency call list you or her husband? He will find out one way or the other. I just don't think something like this can stay under wraps (no pun intended). Given this that this is your friend,I'm kinda getting a better picture of your paranoia about people.

Furry... Furrycreature

That is such a bad idea. 

older... oldermomat41

Not only is this a bad idea, the woman is obviously an idiot. Even the best face lift will leave the tell tale signs, the scars around ear lobes, etc. Really, a car accident caused the need for such surgery and no one notified her husband. She has bigger problems than her "need" for a face lift. Her marriage is in a bad place if she can not talk to her husband, come up with a solution through compromise or simply stand up to him and let him know this is her choice and her body...providing she can afford the surgery. But this convoluted tale is a bad bad idea!

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