I Let My Friend Dress Me for the Red Carpet Because I Am Hopeless

high heelsIt was tempting to poke fun at Adele's Grammys dress, wasn't it? It's the biggest night of the year for the British singer, and she showed up in something that one friend described as a tablecloth, another some curtains from the 1970s. I would have joined in, but it hit much too close to home. I've been facing my own red carpet nightmare.

I'm all set to join the celebrities at the premiere for the new Wizard of Oz movie -- Oz the Great and Powerful -- for The Stir. But I'm the kind of mom who embarrasses her 7-year-old with her awful style. Going clothes shopping brings me to tears.

So what is a mom to do when she's got a big event to dress for and she has no clue how to do it? You get brave ... and you hand over the reins to someone else. Take heed, ladies, this could be the most freeing moment of your life.

It sounds silly, doesn't it? Letting someone else pick out your clothes when you're a grown woman? The last person to do that was my mother, and I was a little kid.

But I have a body not unlike Adele's. And with it has come a paralyzing fear of wearing anything that shows it off. Add in a complete lack of fashion knowledge, and I'm more or less a walking wardrobe malfunction.

So I decided to take the stress off my shoulders. I gave my friend Cat a mission: find me a dress and accessories that were red carpet appropriate. I gave her completely free rein, asking only that she try to use at least one or two items from my closet and keep the whole ensemble from breaking the bank.

Could she really do any worse than I already do trying to cobble together a "look" for an occasion? As it turns out, she did -- not surprisingly -- much better than I could have possibly imagined.

She chose an A-line dress that covers up the belly pooch and wide hips that come from too much sitting at a computer all day for work. It's a dress I would have avoided, going for something completely shapeless to hide my flaws, but it may be the first dress in years that doesn't make me want to go running back to my jeans and sweatshirts. It even has flowy 3/4-length sleeves that hide my arms.

Then she took me to Etsy to find simple "statement" jewelry to go along with it that didn't break the bank. One resin ring and one resin bracelet later -- both with pressed flowers -- and I'm hooked. It's cheaper than gold and so much more unique! And yet, I never would have ventured in that direction if it weren't for her.

This is the thing about letting someone else dress you. They will walk you out of your comfort zone. They will try things you never would have tried. And they will be able to see what you can't see in you.

It was agonizing at first, handing over the reins like that, but in the end, it's the smartest thing I could have done. I probably would have gone the Adele route and tried to cover up as much skin as possible, to hell with what I actually look like. 

Instead, here I am, ready to go to Oz (and check in with Wreck-It Ralph while I'm there), and I've got a new way to conquer every wardrobe nightmare in my future: I'm not going to stress about it. I'm going to let someone else do the dirty work.

How about you? Would you ever let someone else dress you for a big event?


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lobus lobus

You look like a high school student going for a picnic...I'm sorry not a fan especially for the red carpet. The pinks don't go together and the dress is too short. And you look uncomfortable like you're sucking in. You have an amazing body but I don't think your friend did you any favors! Trust your own fashion sense...

Alexis Eggleton

Super cute! I know how you don't like dresses so I think this is a fun, feminine choice! And those shoes! Good pop of color and HEIGHT! =)

jenni... jennifer2712

Should have gone darker, longer, and forget the sleeves..not a fan at all

nonmember avatar Carrie

Do I love it? No. But you clearly do and that's what matters.

Katie Porter

I like the dress especially since you look comfortable and confident wearing it. I wish we could see the jewelry to get the whole look. I don't like the shoes. They look like summer shoes and kinda take away from the look. Maybe you and your friend should take a trip to tjmaxx for a new pair. A pair of platform beige pumps might look nice. Good luck on the red carpet!

BiBi Frederick Waltslady

Jeanne you look absolutely beautiful!! Seriously... IDK what the other two posters are looking at, but to me you dont look uncomfortable you look confident and you look like you feel sexy!! LOVE this look on you

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

I like it, you look happy in it!

Alicia Kirby

You look fabulous!! I love the entire look. Your legs are smokin':)

Blues... Blueshark77

I think it takes a lot of guts to hand over the reins to a friend. Maybe because my friends and I all have such different tastes, but I don't think I could do it. The few times someone has recommended something or bought me some clothes as a present it reminds me that they have no idea what I like or what is flattering for me. Nice of them to try though.

amiec... amiecanflie

You look amazing!

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