Makeup Is a Girl's Worst Best Friend

Rant 16

putting on makeup mirrorIt's no surprise that most of us think we look better with makeup on. Some women feel their best when they wear only a little bit; some like the primer, the liquid, the powder, the blush, the liner, the lipstick, the gloss, the mascara, the works. Does that make one woman more superior than the other? No. The only thing it does mean for sure is that the one who wears more makeup spends more on makeup. That stuff is expensive.

The other reality is whatever people say to a woman about her makeup is guaranteed to make her feel like crap. Even if she thinks she just applied the best cat eye ever. We can't win on this topic, which is why everyone should make sure their lipsticked or not lipsticked mouths say nothing but compliments, but in the most careful of ways.

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Let's say a woman who generally wears a decent amount of makeup heads out in public with only a touch of powder and a hint of mascara. Someone she sees often says to her:

A. You look really pretty today!

B. You look tired. Bad night?

C. (Pointing to face) What did you do different?

Which one do you think she would most like to hear?

Answer: None of the above. Each one of those remarks could make her question herself. Even "You look really pretty today!" because that will make her think that all the other times she is all done up with makeup, she isn't looking good. Then each time she goes to do her makeup, she will second guess herself and wonder if she's putting too much on.

Oh makeup. I love you. I hate you.

This isn't a feminist issue either. As writer Natasha Scripture details in The New York Times:

Cleopatra pretty much invented the eyeliner, and she ruled a kingdom! Many consider her to be the first feminist ever; and her legacy is testimony to the fact that a woman can be beautiful, smart, empowered, and wear a ton of eye makeup.

If a woman went on a job interview today with full-on Cleopatra makeup, I'm not sure how serious she will be taken unless of course it was a job interview for the role in the movie Cleopatra. A 2013 updated and more subdued Cleopatra eye, however, would be lovely.

Just today I looked in the mirror after a day of taking care of my daughter who is sick. We stayed in all day. I wore my best yoga pants and long T-shirt. No makeup. I felt ugly. And thought, There's no way my husband would want to have sex with me looking like this. So I asked him.

He told me I was beautiful no matter what and of course he'd love to have sex with me.

I don't wear makeup so I can have sex with my husband. But makeup does make me feel attractive, so feeling attractive also makes you attractive, and sex is more likely to happen when you're feeling hot about yourself. Plus, I like to feel pretty -- whatever pretty means to me.

I'll confess now that I made the part up about asking my husband. I'm sure that's what he would have said though, but asking him would mean he'd examine my non-makeup face and really, really look at it, and since I had no makeup on at all and as I mentioned felt ugly, I didn't want him to possibly see what I was seeing.

Self-esteem and makeup go together like my Kabuki brush and mineral powder. And if wearing makeup makes you feel beautiful, empowered, ready to face the world, ready to have sex with your husband, then feel beautiful, empowered, ready to face the world, and have sex with your husband.

Long live makeup. Even though you are sometimes a burden, you smear when I don't want you to, and you cost a lot for the good stuff, you are still a good friend.

Do you love your makeup?

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britn... britneykaren

I envy people who can wear makeup, it is so pretty and looks like fun but any time I try, I feel like a clown and then I want to rub my eye and it gets everywhere....but I feel so pretty without it I stopped bothering with it

linzemae linzemae

I have an obsession with makeup. I buy so much... I can't leave the house without concealer!

Wheep... Wheepingchree

I definitely can't leave the house without curling my eyelashes and throwing some bare minerals & blush on. I feel like I look like shit otherwise.

blunt... bluntcakes

i  use MUFE HD foundation every now and then i wish i wasnt so lazy about putting on my face, even putting on some concealer and foundation can brighten your day. do try the beautyblender to apply your foundation, love it!

Jess1... Jess10210

I have an unhealthy obsession with mascara and eye lash curlers. I have 6 mascaras right now and can't even go to the gym without my mascara (waterproof so if I sweat I'm good, of course).

nonmember avatar Lexi jordan

LOVE my makeup. I love that you can play up your prominent features so easily & make them "pop". I have naturally long and curled lashes but they are blonde, add some mascara and my eyes stand out so much more! (which is great for me cause I don't have nice, big eyes) isn't just for insecure women or women who want to please men. I wear it for myself! :)

nonmember avatar LizzieBorden

If you're wearing makeup you should look better; after all, if done right it hides those small imperfections everyone has and can highlight those good features everyone has. Nothing wrong with that; though it shouldn't be the basis of self esteem, you need to find another medium of esteem other than looks.

On the daily I like a tinted moisturizer, color corrector & concealer under eyes, mascara, eyeliner between the lashes to make em look thicker, and blush. Makes me look aliiiive, I definitely recommend color correctors for pesky persistment discolorations.

Felly... FellyScarlett

I love make up. And I can't imagine having self esteem so low that every time someones says anything I get upset. Love yourselves ladies!

nonmember avatar Zuri

I wear light makeup- clear lip gloss and subdued blush most days. I was bullied in 5th and 6th grade and I'm still severely insecure, so sometimes I'll even dress up and put on makeup in the house. I can't walk around in sweats without feeling like crap.

Freela Freela

I'm too lazy for makeup most days. I do wear it if I'm going out (like really going out- with friends, with the hubby- not going to the grocery store or anything.) I do think I look nicer with it on, but think I look fine without it too, and try not to let anyone's weird comments about anything I'm wearing or not wearing damage my self-esteem!

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