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Shopping for Pretty Heels That Don't Kill My Feet Is Giving Me a Heart Attack

by Mary Fischer on December 12, 2012 at 2:10 PM

black heelsI've said it before and I'll say it again, I really, really loathe high heels. And it's not because I don't like the way they look, because I think they make your legs look absolutely amazeballs. Nope, I hate heels simply because for the life of me, I just can't seem to find a pair that is not only stylish and trendy yet comfortable -- and wearable.

No joke, every single time I think I've picked up the perfect pair, I wear them for about an hour, and then my feet wind up looking like a couple of baked potatoes complete with several lumps and wrinkly skin. Heels just don't fit my feet, plain and simple.

So for the most part, I stick to flats -- and that's why I'm in a real pickle right now.

You see, one of my oldest and dearest friends is getting married on New Year's Eve (Woo-hoo! Party time!) and I'm one of her bridesmaids.

She's made it really easy on all of her attendants by telling us that whatever black shoe we want to wear is perfectly fine, so I guess I could go with flats if I really wanted to. (Or possibly even my Zumba sneaks.)

But considering how puhr-ty the dress is, I want a sexy pair of heels to go with it.

 bridesmaid dress

 

Isn't it adorable? And won't flats look ridiculous with it? (Yeah, that's what I thought.)

For weeks now, I've been desperately searching for the perfect pair of black heels, and honestly, it seems like every pair I try on is worse than the last. Either they pinch my toes, slip in the heels, give me foot cramps the minute I try to take a step, or just flat-out make my poor tootsies ache. And considering I only have 19 days left to find a suitable pair AND we have Christmas coming up, which will knock out a potential shopping day or two, I'm really starting to think I'm screwed.

Everywhere I turn, there are women walking around in stilettos looking perfectly content with no sign of foot issues, so why am I having such a hard time? For crying out loud, just this morning I saw a picture of Reese Witherspoon out shopping in crazy heels and thought to myself, "Who shops in high heels? Aren't her feet killing her?"

Apparently not, and apparently I have some sort of serious heel-aversion that doesn't affect the millions of other women on the planet.

I'm not sure what to do, and I'm running out of time, and I really, really don't want to resort to wearing flats at that wedding. I wanna be the belle of the ball. (Ok, I'm kidding. That's the bride's title.)

Do you have any tricks for making heels comfortable? Is there a good pair of basic black ones that you could recommend?

 

Images via ...love Maegen/Flickr; Nordstrom

Filed Under: shoes, weddings

Comments

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  • Laine...
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    Lainey0468

    December 12, 2012 at 2:21 PM

    I have a pair of Vera Wang platforms that are VERY comfortable, try a pair on at Kohl's.  I have also heard that Jessica Simpson's shoes are very comfortable; not sure where to purchase them.  A girl I work with wears the JS shoes every day, all day and she never looks like she is hurting.  Good luck :)wink


  • Misha
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    Misha

    December 12, 2012 at 2:27 PM
    A2 by Arisoles are my go to. I can't get the hang of heels and I can't take the pain. This brand rocks. Available at Kohls Famous Footwear and probably other places. I just bought some that are HIGH healed black Mary janes and cam wear them all night. Again I am Queen foot-wuss. Give them a try
  • mindy
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    mindy

    December 12, 2012 at 2:40 PM
    a) i love your dress!! (and it's not just because i picked it out- i may want to borrow it when you're done!) ;) b) wear whatever you're comfortable in... i just came from a dress fitting... i made sure it works with my (very high sparkly heeled) shoes... and also with the flip flops i plan to change into as soon as the ceremony and our first dance is over with! you need to be comfortable... how else will you shake it with me on the dance floor all night?! xoxox
  • Karma...
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    Karma Grant

    December 12, 2012 at 2:49 PM

    heels.com sells Jessica Simpson's shoes. I never could do the heels thing until the last year and now if I try to wear even flat tennis shoes I have problems with my bad hips. Yup, freaky but true, my hips prefer heels. Anyway, as a fairly new heel wearer I can tell you I have suffered similar fate. The only fix is keep trying AND breaking in the shoes. After a few wears they stretch. That can be good for closed toe shoes but hard on your toes in the process. It can also be bad if you're already getting heel slippage.

    Anyway, check out heels.com or even better, check RackRoom shoes. They have some "brand" names and some off brand.


  • LadyDIN
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    LadyDIN

    December 12, 2012 at 2:50 PM

    Booties tend to hide the icky feet that heels give me, and seem more comfy. I could so see that dress with some super cute sparkly booties. You could even go for a trendy open toe.

    Torrid has good heels if you're of a curvier persuasion. Try a kitten heel, or just 1-2 inchers. They don't have to be sky high to be sexy as hell.

    Also inserts. They offer better slip control, and extra cushion.


  • Pinkmani
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    Pinkmani

    December 12, 2012 at 3:22 PM

    Try Bandilino! And if you can splurge, I hear Louboutins are VERY comfortable...


  • the4m...
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    the4mutts

    December 12, 2012 at 3:38 PM
    Try a wedge instead of a heel. Or look for a low heel, instead of a high one. Its the incline that kills your feet, not the presence of a heeled shoe.
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    Cara Vallely

    December 12, 2012 at 3:58 PM

    Maybe try a thicker heel? I have some amazingly comfortable ones from 9 west also good ankle support seems to help too


  • spect...
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    spectralmind

    December 12, 2012 at 4:02 PM

    www.sofftshoe.com/ 

    I have a bunch of pairs of these heels. They are a bit pricey, and don't come in any little tiny bitty strappy styles...but they offer great support and are so well padded, it feels like walking on air! They have wide withs too, which I am not in regular shoes, but heels I do get wide width. I have an orthopedic condition as well (my hips fail) and these are some of the best I've found.


  • spect...
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    spectralmind

    December 12, 2012 at 4:02 PM

    www.sofftshoe.com/ 

    I have a bunch of pairs of these heels. They are a bit pricey, and don't come in any little tiny bitty strappy styles...but they offer great support and are so well padded, it feels like walking on air! They have wide withs too, which I am not in regular shoes, but heels I do get wide width. I have an orthopedic condition as well (my hips fail) and these are some of the best I've found.


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