Wearing Makeup Makes Me Feel Good About Me

Mom Moment 11

makeupI can't pin down an exact moment when I decided I had to start wearing makeup again. I remember looking at myself in the mirror and thinking I looked worn. Tired. Older than my (at the time) 29 years. I knew it was time.

I pulled out the eyeliner, the eye shadow, the brushes.  I am a makeup-wearing mom again, and I won't look back. But this has nothing to do with looking pretty.

I know, I just said I looked old and tired. But I'm one of those women who will never really be happy with her looks, and a little makeup isn't going to change that.

This decision goes much deeper. Because when I really evaluated myself in the mirror, I realized it wasn't the lack of makeup on my face that made me look tired, made me look old.

It was the time I was spending on everyone in my life but me. Carefully brushing out my daughter's hair before school in the morning only to walk out of the house in the same hoodie I'd pulled on when I climbed out of bed. Rolling a lint brush over the back of my husband's coat to remove the dog hair before we went somewhere only to pull on the same parka with the rip in the pocket that I've worn for years.

I was neglecting myself. Maybe not in the basics -- I still showered and brushed my teeth folks (!) -- but by failing to give myself a little pampering.

That's what makeup is to me. It's my me time.

It's five whole minutes in front of the mirror that is all about me. It's a time when I'm not multi-tasking (have you tried yelling an answer to your child while putting on liquid liner? It's not pretty). It's a time when I'm leaving other people in my house up to their own devices, putting the onus for taking care of themselves on them.

It's not long -- I've never known much about makeup, so I do only what I've cobbled together from an old Mary Kay party and the time my friend Sunny convinced me to sit down in Sephora to have my eyes done. But in the spirit of truly doing something for me, frugal old me has even abandoned drugstore cosmetics in favor of the sorts of pretty things I've always craved: Smashbox eye shadows and Stila eyeliner.

At the end of it, I may not look much different. It's just a little bit around the eyes. But I feel different. I feel like a woman who cares about herself, who has done something just for her. That's what makeup is for me.

Do you take the time to put on makeup? What does it do for you?


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fleur... fleurdelys3110

I don't go ANYWHERE without makeup. It makes me feel extra confident and I can hold my head high in any situation. When I feel beautiful on the outside, it does wonders for my inner beauty and confidence.

tuffy... tuffymama

I don't go out to the mailbox without makeup on. I know some people think that's crazy, but its just part of the Old South culture in which I was raised. You shouldn't wear whore face, but mascara and lipstick or blush are necessary. With my dark eye circles, I don't feel like I look awake and healthy if I skip the concealer. And I need eyebrows now that hypothyroidism caused me to lose the last half of them (but they're growing back!). And since I'm doing all that, I may as well do my whole face. I skip lipstick if I'm not going out, though. We kiss a lot in this family, and my boys do NOT like wearing lip prints on their faces.

CoolM... CoolMommy86

Wow! Just came to the same conclusion yesterday morning. I had a day off, and was looking at myself in the mirror and how I used to wake up at 6AM sans kid, JUST so I could do my makeup and hair before school. It was (and still is) an art form to me and I just started "painting" again. I DO feel different, and even though my DH tells me I'm beautiful everyday, a little makeup makes me feel beautiful to myself! I'm trying to make more of an effort in looking as good as people tell me I am, because I need to do it for ME. It's my "me time" too. So today, when I went to school I made the effort. I felt more confident and had a little pep in my step! No more errand shopping with a naked face! I love makeup. As for the clothes and hair...well, I'm working on it lol.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

Still have a touch of acne, so i almost always wear foundation and concealer. Then i find i look a bit odd at just that so tend to go the whole hog! I like how i look with it on, my skin looks so much better when it's not looking red and angry. but more than that- i LOVE make up. I could spend hours watching youtube tutorials. I love the colours, i love what you can achieve, i love it all!

Blues... Blueshark77

Nothing wrong with spending some time on yourself and feeling good about yourself! I feel better when I have on mascara, and a little undereye concealer on tired days. If it's later in the day and I'm going out I'll add some eye shadow. Even if I'm just in jeans and a tee (which is most days) it makes me feel more put together. I rarely do the whole face except on special occasions.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

Gosh, totally! I do my make up everyday. It makes me feel much better! I'm an esthetician by trade so it's kinda in my blood. Even if I am wearing a track suit my hair and make up is usually done. If not my hair then definately my make up!

Felly... FellyScarlett

When I go to work I only wear mascara, blush, and chapstick, if even that. I do love makeup though. It's defenitly me time.

Billie Jo Evans

I wish I could wear make-up :( I suffer from rosacea and without meds it does cause me to have acne, but the meds I've been taking for years have aged me and now I'm a 24yr old with facial wrinkles :( I'm going to research clinique and see if they can assist me.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

Billie Jo- stay FAR FAR AWAY from clinique- you may as well use paint stripper on your face. I recommened the L'Occitane immortelle range- it's really gentle on my poor acne-prone skin, but really effective.

stara... starandseen

Yeah I wear makeup, eyeliner, eyebrow liner, occasional eye shadow and lip gloss. My husband says I look better now after I had children than before I had them. Also I dress better too.

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