When Men Say They Prefer Women 'Without Makeup', They're Lying

Style Savvy 22

miranda kerrVictoria's Secret model and mom Miranda Kerr doesn't need a stitch of makeup to look beautiful. She's arguably one of the most beautiful women in the world -- one of those women you can't help but stare at because her face, and all of its perfectly plump features, is almost confusing. I mean, who looks like that?

However, despite the fact that Miranda's face (and yes, matching ridiculous body) is otherworldly gorgeous, she still feels the need to always wear a little makeup for husband Orlando Bloom. She says it "keeps him happy." And I believe it. Because dudes who say they "love women without makeup" don't know what they're talking about.

I'm certainly not saying that the key component in making a marriage or relationship work is wearing makeup. That's ridiculous. And if it is, then ... weird. But I am saying that when guys wax poetic on how much they love ladies sans makeup (you know, like the chick in the Aveeno ad -- she's "naturally" beautiful), they're confused.

What they mean is: They like natural-looking makeup. I think it's unanimous that caked-on Kim Kardashian-style foundation and eyelashes are not a good everyday look. Kim's an undeniably beautiful woman, but I bet even the most red-blooded American male would be a little taken aback if he saw her in person. (She wears a lot.)

Of course there are many, many women in the world who look absolutely stunning without a stitch of makeup. They just wake up gorgeous. (And, hey, I bet Kim Kardashian is one of them!) But I don't think their husbands and boyfriends would complain if they swiped on a coat of mascara and glossed their lips with something really sheer.

In fact, if you asked them, they probably wouldn't even know they were wearing makeup at all.

Do you feel more beautiful without makeup?

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Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I've been wearing the same makeup look for just about forever. It only takes me about five minutes and looks very natural. I use a light line of brown eyeliner on just my top lids. Accent under my eyebrows with a white shimmer then blend my eyeliner with a light pink shimmer. Then apply mascara. That's it :) I feel much better about going out when I do this ritual then if I didn't. I feel I look very tired and bland without highlighting my eyes, which are my best feature. 

nonmember avatar Samantha

I dont wear makeup often. I dont dress up often. I dont wear dresses or heals or pretty panties often. I do that bc when i do wear these things, its a suprise. Its exciting & exotic. Every man appreciates it when their woman dresses up for them once in a while. Every day is simply pointless. Whats there to wonder about or be excited about if you always look your best? Its also shock when you look like crap. Too big of a difference. Without makeup, im not a babe, but the guys follow anyways. They see it as down to earth, easy going, confident.. Those are some of the biggest traits men look for & appreciate.

the4m... the4mutts

While men, of course, enjoy the look of women who dress up occasionally, I have to say that the author is wrong. Men DO like women without makeup, and actually natural, not just natural looking makeup. My s/o tells me how great I look, how pretty I am, and he does it most when I'm not wearing any makeup at all. He's asked me if I am wearing makeup lots of times, and when I say no, he just smiles and tells me "you're so lucky. Not many women look like you do without products"

I have naturally pink cheeks, rosey lips, and a clear complection. My eyebrows have a great natural shape, and I am proud that I don't need to put anything on my face to feel or look pretty

dirti... dirtiekittie

i disagree. my husband absolutely HATES any trace of makeup on my face. he can tolerate some eyeshadow or eyeliner ("if you must", he says) but anything on my lips is an absolute NO-NO. he hates kissing me with anything on! lol 

and i stopped wearing makeup regularly in high school. it's a 'special occasion' kind of thing that i rarely do. i'd rather have a handful of occasions where i felt particularly pretty or feminine cuz i pulled out all the stops with the makeup and hair and all, than to feel bad on a regular basis because i didn't "put on my face" that day. 

nonmember avatar Mommyof3thatsme

I rarely wear makeup mon-fri, and my husband is proud of my confidence, is affectionate, and understanding of my commitments. He doesn't see me as something that should "look a certain way". Im not prize to him, I'm his best friend and wife. Do you care what your best friend looks like? Not really! I enjoy the feeling of security I get from him when he doesn't notice who I ACTUALLY look like, but smiles and says "you look pretty today". I know that, in his eyes, I do look pretty. That's lasting love.

tnyangel tnyangel

This is actually a subject I've thought a lot about. Men always say they don't want a girl all "made up" in surveys, then if they ask them who is sexier, they always pick a photo of the "made up" girl. 

Here's my theory: That girl with no make-up and messed up hair, dancing in the kitchen and singing her favorite song (to quote a country music song) is beautiful. She's his love, they are home and she's happy and that brings a glow about you.

Does he want her to look that way out with friends? Probably not, for work, for everything else, he wants the outside version of you. The one you present to the folks at work. But if asked what he thinks is more beautiful, he always pictures the natural version of you at home that he's lucky enough to know. 

nonmember avatar NoWay

I agree with Samantha. I rarely wear makeup or "do" my hair, but when I do, I get a LOT of attention. If I did myself up every day, I would likely get the "WTH happened to you?" if I showed up to work au naturel (which is what I normally do now). LOL My husband tells me I'm beautiful all the time, and it's not just when I wear make-up.

nonmember avatar NavyWife

Same here, the4mutts. I've also been blessed with good skin, rosy lips, pink cheeks and the like. I feel like my skin is suffocating when I wear makeup. The only time I put any on is if it's a special occasion. I feel that because I don't wear it often, it's much more appreciated and special. My husband prefers me without makeup. That's more than a lot of women can say about their spouses and reaffirms my faith that not all men are shallow.

Torra... TorranceMom

I absolutely do NOT feel more beautiful without makeup. I don't wear a lot but I'd rather not leave the house without it.

amiec... amiecanflie

I rarely wear anything more than tinted chapstick, it's a special occasion thing. My SO doesn't like make up much, and I still get plenty of compliments jsut as I am. :]

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