Why I Won't Cut My Hair Short Just Because I'm a Mom

long hairNow that I have a 7-month-old daughter who likes to grab everything in sight (and then pull really hard!), I know why moms cut their hair. If I'm holding my daughter, and my hair is down -- yank! -- it's a fist full o' hair for the little lady. She's even gone in for a sneak attack swipe when my husband's holding her and I'm just walking by. The girl, like all babies, loves hair.

Actually, I now realize there are a million reasons moms cut their hair. In addition to it being an obvious preventative measure against bald spots, short hair is quicker to dry and style, and generally just easier.

But still. I'll never cut my hair.

I've had long hair my entire life. Until one day when I didn't. I had been toying over the idea of cutting my hair into one of those cute bobs that's longish in the front, shortish in the back for about two years. Every time I would leave for the salon, I'd say to my husband (then my boyfriend), "I might come back with short hair." (To which he'd say: "Do it!") Always, I'd come back with hair that was half an inch shorter. But eventually, after years of talking a big game, I grew a pair and chopped it off.

I liked it for about 45 minutes.

Ugh, the bob. It's an adorable haircut that looks good on so many women -- but I am not one of those women. And the maintenance of a bob, for me at least, was far more time consuming than my regular styleless below-the-shoulder hair. You see, you can't just wash and go with a bob. (Especially when you have bangs.) There are serums involved. Round brushes, and such. At the time, I wasn't cutting my hair as a means of a morning short-cut; I was cutting it because I was tired of looking at the same 'do for god knows how many years. But when I met myself in the bathroom mirror each morning, ends flipping out, bangs all frizzy, I cursed the stylist in my head for not warning me about the upkeep involved in an actual hairstyle.

But it wasn't just that. Like I said, a bob just wasn't "me." Sometimes, in my head, I like to pretend I'm a super sophisticated, put-together woman, who wears a watch and always looks like she's got a fresh blow-out. But in reality, I can usually be found in yoga pants with chipped nail polish on my toes. Long, stringy hair just seems to go with that lifestyle more.

So, no. I will not be cutting my hair now that I have a baby. I will brave hair tugs and finding dried spit-up in favor of the convenience a flowing mane brings.

But really, I just like the way I look better with long hair.

Did you cut your hair after having a baby?


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cassi... cassie_kellison

I cut my hair super short before I had the baby and the Stylist was kind enough towarn me that short hair has a lot more maintenance than you would think. On a rushed day I wouldn't be able to pull it up in a pony tail, I had to actually style it or look a mess. So now with 2 kids I ave long hair again, but for a different 'do I go bangs for the first time since I was like 10, and I hated them immediately. She didn't style them very well in the salon so I was freaking out the whole drive home until I was able to soak them wet and style. Then I liked them for a day. I am in the process of growing them out, thank goodness for Bobby Pins!

nicol... nicoleeolee

I can relate 100%! I've had long hair for the majority of my life and everytime I think I'll give short(er) hair another shot, I ALWAYS regret it. Long hair is just me. Maybe I don't like change, but I also know I DO NOT like a pixie either!! :) I sadly did cut my hair for both of my children, but let it grow after the initial cut (thankfully my hair grows fast). It really was just easier - there were days I was lucky to get it combed. It wasn't fair to my hair!! haha! So for the greater good, it was cut for a short time to my shoulders. 

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I did the same thing after my first was born! And I regretted it as well. I had them chop a whole foot of it off then do the inverted bob. I like the cut, just not on me. And I missed my long hair. I just didn't feel as good about myself without my long flowing tresses. Well, about three years later I am back to where I started before I chopped it off. It IS a huge hassle to style it (that one time a week I actually do) but I love having it back :) 

stace... stacey541

I had to cut off my hair after baby #2...I wish more than anything I could have it long again! After I had the baby my hair came out in clumps, making my once thick hair super thin. Unfortunately it has never came back so long hair looks really bad on me now....stuck with the chin length do that I have to upkeep all the damn time...but at least it looks good.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

Did it the first time (above my shoulders), absolutely will NOT do it this time (its now below my shoulder blades lol)

sassy... sassykat122

Refuse to do the mom bob. I may cut my hair shorter, but never too short. I will add layers or color to do something different


jalaz77 jalaz77

Nope I won't. To high maintenance. Long hair is so much easier to style, straighten, braid, pretty buns, natural waves...I had hair above my shoulders once and it was cute but I was skinnier and had time to do it, I remember I always had to do my hair.

Deanna Evenbeck Roddy

My kids are 9 and 8.. and I still have my long hair! 

2cent... 2centsCDN

Weird, I've never considered my children in my hair choices. My Dad was a hairdresser so I've had everything from super short to somewhat long and always figure if I don't like it, it'll grow back.

Emily Kellen

Nope. my hair grew so long during my pregnancy and I love it like this. Not planning on cutting anytime soon! I just clip it up so my son can't get it too much.

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