'Saying Yes' to a Wedding Dress Isn't So Simple for Every Bride

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wedding dress from backEven before I officially became a bride-to-be, there was one thing I dreaded more than dealing with family drama, a spiraling out of control guest list, or trying to stick to a potentially unrealistic budget. After hearing horror stories involving "clamps," "pulleys," and copious amounts of frou-frou pick-ups and tulle, I was absolutely terrified of ... trying on wedding dresses. That is, until, I decided I needed to face my fears and marched into a department store bridal boutique on a whim. Turns out, trying on gown after gown isn't nearly as dehumanizing as I had feared. It's actually -- gasp! -- sort of FUN!

Two trips later, I found myself with my mom at a bridal salon, wearing a beautiful dress that made me feel like a million bucks. And when I said so, Everyone around me wanted to know ... Was I saying "yes" to this dress?

The answer: No ... not yet. Although I absolutely adore the dress, feel gorgeous in it, think it meets all of the specifications I was looking for and then some, I'm still not sure. But because I'm not sure, some might say my uncertainty must mean the dress wasn't "The One." Because when you put on The Perfect Dress (just like when you find The Perfect Guy), you're supposed to "just know," right? Pffft! I don't buy it.

For one thing, at barely 4'11", I usually need petite-cut and/or specially-tailored clothing, so nothing I try on in a store is going to look "perfect" at first try. The length sure as hell is going to be a test in creative visualization, the bust probably will need to be clamped to fit right, and there are usually other little finishing touches I might want to tinker with (like adding a lacy cap sleeve to a strapless gown).

For another, sometimes it's a bit too early on in the game to call time. Being that I technically have until mid-November until I apparently absolutely must order something for our May "I do"s, why shouldn't I enjoy a few more trips to other bridal salons and see what else is out there? As my mom reminded me, I happen to live near a "vortex" of wedding fashion -- NYC aka home to Say Yes to the Dress base camp, Kleinfeld! -- so my shopping options are, for better or worse, practically endless.

The bottom-line: Everyone's dress shopping experience is different. Some brides, myself included, aren't just going to pop on a gown and "know" that that's it. They'll need to think it through, do some comparison shopping, try on a few more in order to make a decision, etc. And there's nothing wrong with that.

It's okay. I get it. Our immediate gratification-accustomed, reality show-obsessed culture being what it is, it makes sense that brides are told it'll be "love at first sight" when they find The Dress. I'm pretty sure it won't necessarily be that way for me ... Either way, this bride still has some more shopping to do. And there's no shame in that!

Do you believe it's "love at first sight" when you find the right wedding dress, or is it natural to hem and haw a bit?

 

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fleur... fleurdelys3110

Sometimes it's best to just go with your gut, or else you'll constantly be trying to one up the dress you're thinking of, and you'll end up like the brides on "Say Yes to the Dress" who have tried on over 100 dresses!

Aeris... AerisKate

I don't know.  I bought a dress on a whim one day before we even got engaged (although I knew we were going to).  A wedding dress store was having a sale. I tried one on for fun and my mom started to cry and talk about how this was THE dress, so I bought it.  It was really inexpensive, especially compared to the dresses on "Say Yes to the Dress."  I watched all the seasons available on Netflix last summer and it kinda made me feel like I missed out on something since I didn't go to a store where you have an attendant that helps you, etc.  I just picked my dress up off the rack, took it to the dressing room, and tried it on with my mom.   It was a pretty dress and it looked good on me.  Was it THE dress?  Who knows since it's the only one I tried on....haha.   

linzemae linzemae

I probably tried on over 200 dresses. I thought I'd have 2, I just couldn't decide. I usually went by myself. Then, I was at the shop with my maid of honorand I asked the attendant if she had anything else I might like. She brought out the dress and I knew it was the dress. Only took 5 months and 2 cities!

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I flicked through a book, picked one I liked, and went with it. I don't see why it needs to be such a huge deal. It's a dress you wear for maybe 12 hours.

momof... momof030404

why shouldn't I enjoy a few more trips to other bridal salons and see what else is out there? As my mom reminded me, I happen to live near a "vortex" of wedding fashion -- NYC aka home to Say Yes to the Dress base camp, Kleinfeld! -- so my shopping options are, for better or worse, practically endless.


Because those people work on commission.......THATS why you shouldnt go on those places to PLAY dress up! Whenever I was Say yes to the dress I feel so bad for those women working their tails offso someone can play pretty pretty princess with zero intention of buying. I always wonder how many SALES they miss for it :( It's dress. Thats it. I have been married for 13 years. I Got married at the courthouse in a white sundress that cost about $30 at Sears. The dress doesnt make or break anything as long as you fee pretty in it great. This idea that The Perfect Dress is as important (or even CLOSE) as finding your husband is why weddiungs have gotten so completely out of hand.

tuffy... tuffymama

A wedding gown is a ridiculous expenditure, IMO. The mere thought of dropping $10K on A DRESS makes me queasy.

Miche... MichelleNYC

my mom actually found "the dress" for me. She lives in a different state and I flew out to see it, and it was the one :) I never actually shopped for a dress!!

Amanda McFarland

I only tried on one dress! I found it before I even went and tried it on, loved it, and bought it :)

jacki... jackiecad

I went with the dress I liked most within my budget for my wedding in June. There was one I liked more, that was also more expensive, but even with the emotions of my mom and grandmom, I stuck to my budget. I felt beautiful that day and the pictures are wonderful, I could have been in a 10$ dress and felt that way!

nonmember avatar melanie

I definitely wasn't ready to commit either! "My" dress was the fourth one I tried at the first salon and I had two more appointments at other stores lined up. It's a big decision, and I just wasn't ready to make it. It was only after noting how desperate I was to see it again the next day and how disappointed I was at the second appointment that I cancelled the third and returned and bought the dress.

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