You know Kate Beckinsale -- the gorgeous British actress who starred in Serendipity, Pearl Harbor, and more recently, the Underworld flicks and the forthcoming remake of Total Recall. She's also been repeatedly voted one of the world's sexiest and most beautiful women by the sorts of mags that rank that kind of thing. Well, get this: Despite being an abso-freakin'-lutely knockout, Kate tells Allure magazine, "I didn't feel very attractive as a child, and actually I wasn't. ... Feeling attractive didn't come until I was 29 and with Len (Wiseman, her husband of nearly eight years. ... It was just okay for me to walk around and feel feminine and attractive. I like feeling liberated like this."
Kate goes on to credit her hubby with being the one who helped her "relax" and be more comfortable with her looks. It's funny -- the feminist part of me is distraught at the idea that a strong woman like Beckinsale needed her guy to bolster her self-image ...
But at the same time, I definitely understand where she's coming from. As much credit as she gives Len for helping her along, feeling more at ease in her own skin was probably something that came with age. At 28, I'm learning there's something magical about your late 20s that can make you feel more attractive than ever before. And I really believe it's mostly mental.
After about 15 years (give or take) of trying to perfect your appearance with beauty and fashion, you start to let go. Stop worrying about every miniscule flaw. Start feeling like, This is who I am, for better of worse. I'm doing my best, and I'd rather be happy in my own skin than beating myself up over things I can't control or going all Dr. 90210 on my ass (literally)! Maybe self-acceptance has to do with growing older and wiser. But at the same time, yeah, I'll admit having the support of and reassurance from a man who loves you for you doesn't hurt!
Anyway, Kate's not 29 anymore. Oh no, she's 38 now, and thus, she went on to talk about physically aging ...
What is it about a woman being in her late 30s that brings out the 'Oh, my gosh, are you worried?' questions? Worried? What about? My father died when he was 31. I think the alternative is so much worse. Thirty-eight, 39, 40, 50! Great! Still alive!
Hah! What a great attitude, right? Seriously -- it feels like as soon as we do begin to cultivate that awesome self-acceptance, that's when the Beauty Industrial Complex unleashes its campaign on us to start freaking out about crow's feet or smile lines or whatever the hell else women in their 30s are supposed to be spending their hard-earned cash to "fix," smooth, or tighten. It's ridiculous, because come on! Are any of those "worries" really worth all the hype? Of course not.
Wouldn't it just be so much better to be happy believing that as you age, you'll only grow wiser and more comfortable with yourself with every passing year? That's what it sounds like Kate's doing, and I'm sure she's all the better off and more beautiful for it.
Do you agree with Kate's take on beauty and aging? Did you start feeling more attractive at a particular age?
Image via Allure