10 Luxury Splurges Moms Shouldn't Feel Guilty About

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Ok -- be honest, moms. How many times have you almost treated yourself to a little bit of indulgence -- and then had a huge change of heart the minute you considered the costs involved? I know I've sacrificed an adorable little black dress or a trip to the spa on more than one occasion because I didn't feel like I was worth the extra cash.

As busy parents, it can be so hard to justify splurging on luxuries for ourselves when our kids have so many needs on their lists that always seem to take precedence. And aside from that, moms just seem to feel so guilty anytime we want something nice. It's like we think drooling over a pair of Manolos makes us vain or greedy or something to that effect. But it really shouldn't be that way -- because we work hard and deserve to be pampered on occasion too.

The good news is that there are quite a few beauty and style splurges that are worth shelling out a little (or a lot) of extra dough for, simply because their benefit is greater than the cost.

1. Designer Jeans - I know it can be tough to bite the bullet and purchase a pair of high-end jeans that cost upwards of $100 - $200 or so, but the truth is -- they are worth every single cent. Designer jeans cost more because of the quality of materials used to make them, and believe me, they definitely stand the test of time. I've had my favorite pair of Seven For All Mankind jeans for over 10 years now, and they still look good as new. Splurging on a couple pairs of good jeans will save you from having to buy new ones each and every year.

2. A Good Handbag - It took me a while to hop on the designer handbag bandwagon because I'm not quite past the point of having crushed Goldfish at the bottom of my purse, but now I know my Coach bag can handle my 6-year-old's snacks just fine. The straps tend to break easier on less expensive bags, so you wind up buying a new one each season. You are better off getting one good bag that can handle all of the extra "stuff" motherhood requires you to carry than constantly replacing purses.

3. Leather Jacket - This is one item that every mom needs in her closet. A leather jacket will keep you warm on chillier days, but it's also the perfect piece to dress up the jeans and t-shirt you're already wearing for dinner with your husband or a night out with the girls. You can't put a price on something this versatile.

4. Salon Visits - Gone are the days of at-home color kits and Ogilvie home perms. If you are going to color, highlight, or apply some other treatment to your hair, paying a professional to do it for you is well worth the expense. Nobody deserves a bad dye job -- nobody.

5. Workout Shoes - This is actually one I've fought for quite some time, but this spring I'm going to break down and get a good pair of shoes for working out, because my feet have suffered for way too long. As a mom, you can't risk getting some sort of injury on your morning run or trip to the gym, so investing in a pair of high-quality shoes is key.

6. Quality Skincare Products - Face it ladies, you only get one face. Now is the time to really invest in taking good care of your skin, otherwise you will regret it later on. Cleanser, scrub, toner, moisturizer -- get it all and start a good regimen. You're worth it.

7. Bras That Fit - Oh, boy. This is one that I really need to follow myself, because my bras have absolutely had it. Besides being uncomfortable and worrying about bra-line bulge, if you don't get the correct fit, your clothes may not even look as good on your body. Take the time to go in and get measured at least once a year -- and don't feel guilty about spending a little bit more cash.

8. Manicures and Pedicures - Ok, so manis and pedis aren't exactly essential to your physical health, but they do work wonders for your emotional and mental well being. Getting a manicure or pedicure forces you to relax, even if only for an hour or so. Doing something to make ourselves feel good isn't something we should feel bad about.

9. Swimsuits - I know -- I cringe whenever I see that word too. I've bought cheaper suits in the past, and they always seem to either ride up or fray easily. I think I'm finally realizing that it's better to break down and buy a couple of more expensive suits that actually fit than to sit on the beach and constantly pull my top up or pick my wedgie. (Classy.)

10. Fancy Dresses - Even though we don't have too many opportunities to get all dressed up, nothing quite makes you feel like a lady than putting on a fancy dress and heels. When we do have a more formal occasion pop up, we should treat ourselves and buy something that makes us feel sexy inside and out. And considering how few and far between fancy events are -- the cost is easy to justify.

What is your favorite indulgence as a mom?

 

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rash232 rash232

I so need to do atleast a few of these.

the4m... the4mutts

I think that this list sounds materialistic and selfish. You're talking about not feeling guilty for spending hundreds of dollars on PANTS? Or salon treatments?

Look, every mother deserves to feel like a beautiful woman who is repsected and cherished.

But nobody should need expensive/designer/high end THINGS to feel beautiful and cherished. They need respect, dignity, time to shower and get gussied up without kids pawing at her, and for someone to take some chores off her hands.

Why not tell a mom to do something that actually would matter, instead of go be materialistic?

the4m... the4mutts

Except bras that fit. Those are a nessecity to breast health.

tinyp... tinypossum

I agree with all of these. You may not be able or need to spend hundreds on a pair of jeans or a leather jacket, but moms should buy decent quality clothing items for themselves and not be afraid or too martyred to spend a few bucks on some personal care. I see too many moms walking around in cheap crap from Walmart, with bad dye jobs and haircuts (or chronic ponytails), no grooming beyond a shower and a clean pair of yoga pants. You don't have to dress like on of the RHONJ, but we moms should show some self-respect and not constantly put ourselves at the bottom of the list. I am a much happier mom when I feel good about myself and treat myself to something nice to wear, regular exercise, a good haircut and color and an occasional pedicure. I don't think that it is selfish, materialistic, or neglectful of my family. The mommy martyrs are just fooling themselves that anyone is impressed by that act. 

emmas... emmasmama2007

The only things I started following recently were spending on quality great fitting bras and quality clothes I needed, doesn't mean I had to spend a lot, I hunt great deals.

the4m... the4mutts

Tinypossum- there's a difference. The author is spouting "100$+ pairs of jeans" expensive purses, expensive swimsuits, etc.

You can be clean, done up, and look nice without being a product whore.

There's a happy medium. I have decent clothing *tho I AM style-challenged* and as long as my SO will give me some quality time to myself to get done-up, I look like I spent time in a salon.

We don't need expensive items, we need the time to get ready in peace.

How many moms out there have great clothing items, nice makeup, pretty shoes, but no time to bother with them?

New, expensive items don't "make" the woman cared for, loved, and respected. Or give her time to actually get those fancy things put on her.

ashjo85 ashjo85

You can keep your designer jeans. But amen to the workout shoes. I can testify that finding a high quality, supportive pair of shoes is essential to being comfortable and not getting injured. You'd be SHOCKED how often they recommend replacing your workout footwear due to wear and tear.

the4m... the4mutts

http://thestir.cafemom.com/beauty_style/134930/a_woman_who_is_able?next=1#comments



This kinda proves my point. Check the comments too. Women given some time alone, don't need expensive junk, just time to get what they really want, and enjoy the process.

nonmember avatar Haley

I am so guilty of not doing enough for me. I'll put down any number of items for me, be it a new shirt or whatever, to buy new things for my kids. My husband basically has to force me to shop for myself instead of the kids or house! Although, I do plan on getting out for a bit tomorrow to get a pedi! :)

mamav... mamavaness

I agree with the good purse...if I buy cheap purses the straps always rip but I think thats because I put alot of stuff in them hehe...

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