A Woman Who Is Able to Shop Alone Is the Most Satisfied

Rant 13

shoppingI used to love to go shopping. I would go after work, spend as much time as I wanted, and satisfy my shopping fix. Then I got married. We started saving money for the future and I had a husband who loved to cook and I loved to get home after work in order to eat his delicious cooking. I still shopped, just not as much. Then I had kids. My shopping excursions became scarce and I became the best damn online shopper I could be. Because if you ever tried shopping with twins (or even just one kid), you know what I mean. It's impossible. And you end up buying something you return because you weren't in your right mind when you purchased it in the middle of that delicate balancing act of keeping the kids happy and finding the perfect outfit while the countdown is on to tears and shrieks to return to the food court for more ice cream.

It's also tragically impossible to shop with someone who is waiting for you to stop shopping.

Which is the case with kids, and usually husbands. Basically anyone not invested in finding the cutest and most perfect sandal you have in your head and are determined to find. Even if it takes three hours. Which, let's face it, is not your kids, is not your husband, and is really no one but you.

This is why I believe that whatever needs to be done -- hire a sitter, cancel a playdate, make hubby stay home -- it needs to be done so a woman can shop alone. It's just way too frustrating to shop with a ticking time bomb (the kids, the husband). I still love online shopping (no lines! from the comfort of your couch while in your sweats!), but being able to touch, feel, and even try on some clothes is kind of a dream.

And you can't let too much time pass between shopping excursions. When I went to the mall the other day, after leaving the kids to have fun with grandma, I bought a shirt with a pull in it and a gift from my niece that was the wrong size. I clearly was out of practice. I had no idea what to do with myself or where to go first. When I went back a couple of days later, I had a much more satisfying experience. I found a top on sale for $6 along with the same shirt without the pull, and I returned the too big outfit for my niece and bought something even better. I tried on five pairs of shoes at DSW and ended up not buying any, but I did get to try on five pairs of shoes -- something that would have never been possible if I was there with the kids or my husband ... if I wanted my kids and my husband to be happy.

So in order to keep me happy with shopping, it's got to be a solo thing -- a solo thing every woman deserves. It's my Zen.

Do you prefer shopping alone?

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Kwiat2 Kwiat2

I hate shopping with someone else. Usually because I let their sense of style influence my purchases and then I end up regretting what I got. I also don't like shopping for clothes in general, so it's not an experience for me, I just want to get what I need and get out.

cocob... cocobeannns

Oh yes. Shopping with other people really distracts me. I need to focus on what I'm there for, so I can get in and get out.

mompam mompam

I agree completely. I'll try on 12 things just to get one. I can only shop alone.

jagam... jagamama0710

Abso-freakin-lutely. lol I love to shop by myself. I can spend as much time as I want trying on things and just looking at everything. I can go to whatever and however many stores I want. Even if I'm with a friend who is also shopping I still have a sense of pressure that I'm taking too long and should probably not go to the dressing room 6 times, especially if she's already found what she's looking for. lol

I love to grocery shop as well but only if I'm by myself. 

PonyC... PonyChaser

Clothes/stuff shopping, I usually enjoy shopping with a friend. I can't go with my mom, or with another family member (except my cousin, who is a "professional" shopper. Seriously, the woman should be paid for her talents). But if I'm with a friend, it's usually a fun time out, and we take the time that the other needs to accomplish our goals. And it's nice to have another set of eyes who isn't afraid to tell you, "Oh, honey, no. That outfit makes you look like a giant pink whale."

Grocery shopping, I HATE bringing my hubs or my son. They both get awful cases of the "CanIGets" and it drives me crazy. Especially with the husband, because HE won't take "no" and be done with it.

femal... femaleMIKE

I thought you had a nanny Michelle?

femal... femaleMIKE

I do shop alone. 

I remember being a kid and putting my mother through hell.  She could not shop in peace.  I have no clue why she just didn't leave me at home, with my dad.

LoriA... LoriAnn87

I hate shopping alone because I have no one to talk to, keep me company or get an option on clothes.  Most of the time when I go shopping I bring my 4 year old with me or a friend.


I just love a few minutes alone- shopping, driving, etc--- Ive got two little ones-- a moment to myself is rare.

MrsCh... MrsChurch

I love shopping alone. It's my me-time. I also enjoy shopping with my 6-year-old daughter, because she has really great style and enjoys shopping just as much as I do (although she gets bored easier, so if it's a major excursion, like new season wardrobe, I'll go by myself, or maybe my husband, who likes to shop).

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