Mindy Kaling's Body Issues Gave Me Body Issues

Mindy KalingI love Mindy Kaling's new book, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? and I highly recommend it. Reading it is like spending an afternoon hanging out with your funniest girlfriend.

However, I do have one small problem with the book.

Mindy spends a lot of time in the book obsessing about her, as she sees it, not-so-perfect figure. She compares herself to taller, thinner girlfriends, she talks about how hard it is being larger than the other actresses are in Hollywood, and she shares the story of how she felt when a popular boy at her school called her a whale.

I sympathized with Mindy, and I'm sure many of you can, too. I've had times in my life when I wasn't happy with my weight, and I knew how she felt -- at least until I got to the end of the book and Mindy confided that she was a "chubby" size eight ...

Wait a second.

That's my size.

I'm .... chubby?


I've been pretty proud about being a size eight, at least until I read that line in Mindy's book.

Size eight is a great size to be, in my opinion. I have to work out and watch my diet in order to stay this size, but I can also take days off and enjoy myself during meals out and on holidays. I like how I look in my clothes and I've decided that while a size 6 would be an attainable goal, anything below that would never be worth the effort to me.

The fact is, I like how food tastes, and I want to be able to, you know, eat it from time to time.

But now that I've read 200-something pages of Mindy's "chubby" woes, I'm forced to see myself through her lens. Because I'm a size eight, too! Should I be comparing myself to my thinner friends? Feeling guilty about the fact that I probably eat McDonalds fries a little more often than I should? Obsessing about size-zero actresses? AAAARRRRGH.

This is almost as bad as the time a couple of years ago, when I told a friend who'd lost weight that she looked great. "Thank you!" she said. "I've worked really hard." Then she whispered to me, "Can you believe I had gotten up to a size eight?!"

I had been feeling fabulous at that party until that moment. After that, I felt like the Stay-Puft Marshmallow Man.

Why do we do this to ourselves, ladies? WHY?

What do you think about clothing size obsession?


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Melis... Melissa042807

Isn't Mindy fairly short? If she is, a size 8 would look much different on her than it would on a taller girl. I got down to a size 8 last year (and then went and got knocked up again!) and it's the thinnest I've been in my adult life, but I'm also 5'10" so size 8 is really thin for me. Most of my adult life to this point I've hung out around size 12 and still looked and felt good. 

At the end of the day, though, size is just a number on a tag nobody else can see. What everyone CAN see is how your clothing fits. I'd rather be a well-fitted, flattering size 12 than a squeezed-into-a-sausage-casing size 8. 

Akgirl85 Akgirl85

I've noticed she gained weight on this season of The Office, I think she's smudging the size eight. Size ten maybe. She's also very short so I'm sure any extra weight looks more on her. I've seen many girls make size eight look svelte! I'm disappointed though, because I love her and she is so talented, I always thought she didn't let that petty stuff bother her.

Marveyb. Marveyb.

Hollywood is a really unhealthy place for women. Eight is a perfectly lovely size. If you are 5'1' it might be the top of your weight class. Most women look great at that size. In fact, my best friend is so tall, she looks too skinny below a size 10. It's all about shape and height.

Littl... LittleFrogsMA

Also a size 8 at banana republic is smaller than a size 8 at Ann Taylor

simpl... simplyred2

I totally agree with Melissa. Her size 8 will look very different from me being size 8, since she is so much shorter than mine 5'8. I am happy with a size 8, I will look like a stick if I were a size 2 or 4.

nonmember avatar Lauren

Size eight is maybe Hollywood chubby, but real-life thin/fit (unless you're like 4'9"). I'm 19, 5'5," size 6/8 and am confident that I have a nice body and no weight problem whatsoever. But I would probably be super self-conscious too if I was on TV and around actresses all the time. Celebrity bodies are special cases.

Jenny... JennyG0929

Sizer 8 here and I think I look fabuolus, that is until I see photos of myself. I swear the camera adds 20lbs!

PonyC... PonyChaser

Size is just a number. Yesterday, no joke, I wore clothing pieces in the following sizes: 14, 16, 18, and 22. All at the same time. All from the SAME store!! AND THEY ALL FIT.

So, am I a 14? a 16? a 22? It depends on the day, the article of clothing, the store. In some stores, I'm a 0 or 1, thanks to "vanity sizing".

The bottom line is this: are you happy with the way you look? Are you healthy? Are you active? Then it doesn't matter if you're a 0 or a 24.

And comparing yourself to someone else is only going to lead to problems, because there's ALWAYS going to be someone thinner, prettier, smarter, richer, a better wife, a better mom, whatever. Comparing never ends well.

missusmc missusmc

She said in the book she is happy with how she looks now, but growing up and in college, it wasn't easy for her to be chubby.  She's right- her body type is more chubby than athletic.  She still looks great, and she still writes that she's confident with who she is now.  There's nothing wrong with being chubby- it may not be a word you want to be called, but it's not the same as being obese or even overweight.  I've always been chubby (other than when I was pregnant- then I was just a house) and I have no problem with saying that I am chubby now.  As long as I'm healthy, it doesn't matter.

nonmember avatar Za

I think PoneyChaser is absolutely right. If everybody had the same attitude, we would all be much MUCH happier!

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