Why Do We Hate Our Hair So Much?

7

hair There are some serious crimes being committed every day, yet no one is talking about them. I'm guilty of these atrocities myself, and it's time we all come clean. Hair hatred. We punish it with heat, we damage it with dye, and we abuse it with brushes. The latest felony perpetrated, which also happens to be the latest fad, is the Brazilian blowout.

I've considered getting it done -- I feel like I get an email every hour alerting me to salons that are offering discounts on the Brazilian blowout -- and have even made an appointment. I backed out only because I find commitments hair-raising (get it?) and didn't want to be stuck with straight locks for too long. It had nothing to do with the fact that the process is essentially a cocktail of chemicals that could kill, then embalm, a small city.

Why do we hate our hair so much that we're willing to go to such lengths to change it?

In Asia, a culture with straight hair, perms are popular, and in Brazil, a culture with unruly hair, straightening is popular. The hair is always curlier or straighter on the other side of the fence, or the world, as it seems. Why did we all get like this? And how?

Some might say we pay the big salon bills and risk our health for chemical treatments because of the time-saving properties those styles afford us. Yes, after a Brazilian blowout, your hair stays salon straight, even after you let it air dry. Pretty easy, very fast. But if all we really wanted was a simpler morning routine that didn't suck up so much time with hair dryers and gels, we'd cut our tresses super short. I'm inclined to think that making things easier for ourselves is 60% of the motivating factors. Ten percent is staying on trend, and the remaining 20% is that sweet sweet crime: hair hatred.

Personally, I find it's fun to have control over that enmity. To feel such powerful negativity at times can feel like a sense of relief. Finally! I can hate on something, guilt free! Hating my hair gives me a focal point for my ultimately misguided anger. And when things spin out of control (breakups, lay-offs, death, whatever it is), I still have my hair to hate. But while the realities of life can't be changed, hair can. Hair today, gone tomorrow. So I cut out celebrity magazine pictures, drench my head in carcinogens, and pay my stylist to wash the problems right out of my hair.

And when I leave the salon, my life feels 60% easier, 20% prettier, and 20% happier. For a month or two, at least. Because I totally hate my hair right now.

What's the story with your hair hatred?


Photo via *Saffy*/Flickr

hair

7 Comments

To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.

bwill626 bwill626

I have naturally "wavy" hair that just looks fugly when airdried, so I pretty much flat-iron it everyday (except when I'm not going anywhere or just really don't have the time). I've gotten it down to where it takes me about 10 minutes or less, so it's not that big of a deal, but the damage is not my favorite. Oh well, what can you do? I like my hair long and don't want to cut it super-short out of convenience.

nonmember avatar annie_a

I have super frizzy, corkscrew curly, super dry hair. when I was a teenager, I AGONIZED over the bird's nest on my head every day. I felt miserable because of it. I tried every treatment available to have straight, silky hair. It never worked.

One day I just gave up (or was it wisdom?). I realized there was no point in fighting my curls. they're just part of who I am, really.
I never looked at a blow dryer or flat iron again, and I embraced conditioners and deep treatments to control the frizz factor. I'm actually happy about my hair now, since it's super convenient: 5 minutes - tops - and it's done!

LoriA... LoriAnn87

Mine has is very thick and nautral wavy. I can't really style much because nothing stay in my hair for very long unless i put tons of hair sprays and lots a bobbie pins and putting in barrties they dont' stay so instead of going though all the trouble I just leave my hair down. It takes me 45 mintues to blow dry my hair so I don't do unless I'm going out, I use shampoo and conditer because If I just use shampoo my hair gets all tangle and doesn't feel clean. In the summer my hair gets really frizzy so much of the time I just leave it wet.

Pbutt... Pbuttercup0625

The only time I have hated my hair is when I cut it short when I was a teenager.  I had super long golden blond hair that was wavy and reached to the bottom rib.  After I cut it, I hated it, and would have dreams at night that my hair was long.  Now its almost back to where it was (after a few more cuts that I regretted almost instantly) and it is dark brown and I LOVE my hair.  It has a bit of a "wave" to it some times, but most the time it is either up in a messy bun or I flat iron it.  I'm so surprised at how healthy, shiny, and soft my hair is as I have dyed it countless times, and flat iron at least 3 times a week. So I'm sorry, but I can't join in on the "I hate my hair" group.  My hair is one of my favorite things about me :)

Heart... HeartCharmMama

Well, first off, I'm kind of a hair schizo so I am sure I would never get a Brazilian Blowout, even if it was not dangerous. My hair mood changes constantly and I do have a love/hate relationship with it.


I can relate to Pbuttercup's story.  I had my mom chop my very long hair when I was about 14 and it hasn't been back to that length since.  Sometime I feel as though I've been cursed for chopping my hair and now it takes FOREVER to grow back.  I chopped my hair to chin length last summer and it took about seven months for my hair to grow three inches.  As tempted as I am get a pixie, I'm doing everything I canto get it back to the long, wavy locks I once had. :(

Pbutt... Pbuttercup0625

Hang in there HeartCharmMama, it does take a while, and I recommend getting it trimmed every now and then.  And I had a pixie cut before, but my face is too round, so I looked stupid.  There are no pictures of me with my pixie cut because it looked so bad.  I'm super lucky, and my hair grows really fast.  It took about 4 years to have my hair almost back to what it was, which is pretty fast.  But yeah, if you love having long hair, stay strong.  I know it is a long wait and sometimes a battle :)  But that is why I dyed my hair a lot, because I get bored with my hair, but I didn't want to cut it, so I just dyed it.

Heart... HeartCharmMama

WOW, I am the SAME WAY about my hair...and I also have a round face so good thing I'm not going with it!! ;))

1-7 of 7 comments
F