New Mom Secrets: I Hate Breastfeeding



It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell. 


This Week's Secret:

I hate breastfeeding. I've chosen to breastfeed because I feel it's best for my baby, but I hate doing it. My baby has a hard time latching, gets easily distracted, is fidgety, and rarely stays awake but even when it's not a battle, I still don't like it. — anonymous


If you are/were a breastfeeding mom, did you ever go through a time where you didn't enjoy it?

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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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Past confessions:

I Put Cereal in My Baby's Bottle

I Thought My Baby Was Ugly

I'm Breastfeeding But I Crave Beer

I Sometimes Use Breastmilk for Cooking

My Baby Annoys Me

I Took My Baby to a Bar

I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

I Forgot My Baby's Name!

I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper

I Wish I Never Had a Baby

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RanaA... RanaAurora

Not everyone loves it, especially if you struggle.  There are women who adore it, and women who see it as a utilitarian practice.  Either way, you are doing what is best for your baby, and so you need to find a way to be comfortable with it, even if you don't love it.

Heck, I have a friend who is nursing her 3 year old, and her almost-one year old, nursed while pregnant... and will be the first to say she hates nursing.  However, she realizes a couple years of something she's not a huge fan of benefit her and her girls for LIFE.

So, congrats for nursing, and keep it up - but don't be ashamed of not loving it.

ethan... ethans_momma06

The most difficult part for me was the very beginning and the very end. Once I found my rythm, my nipples and breasts stopped hurting and leaking as bad, and baby became a little more expirienced I was able to enjoy it a little better. However, at 15 months there was no way I could nurse my son anymore. Psychologically and emotionally it wasn't something I could bear to do anymore.

I want to say that there is nothing to feel ashamed about for not finding the expirience pleasurable or fulfilling. It's hard work for everyone, and harder for some of us. You've made a great decision by continuing- bear in mind it doesn't last forever!

Jesse... JessecaLynn

I had a horrible time with my twins and ended up giving up.  With my youngest I breast fed her until she was 13 months old.  She ended up comfort nursing, and that got old for me.  She wanted to be on the breast a lot and so it was hard to give time to my twins and keep up with the house.  Although I was happy to breastfeed her, I didn't want her to be my only focus either.

Pollymom Pollymom

There are probably a lot of women who don't enjoy breastfeeding. My SIL is one of them - she hated it and didn't do it for her last child.

I liked breastfeeding just fine when I did it, but I don't miss it. My neice was sad when she stopped nursing her kids.

tonia... toniatwell

My daughter was born by emergency c-section. She was full term but only 6lbs. I didn't get to see her until she was 4 hours old b/c I had some bleeding issues. I had the worst time trying to breast feed. She was so small and they had to give her a bottle first. It took a week before she could latch on good enough to eat. I'm so glad I stuck with it though. It's a pain trying to find a place in public to feed or time for yourself, but I know that by breast feeding her I gave her the best.

apexm... apexmommy

Yeah, I hate changing diapers, too.  In fact, there are a lot of things that I dislike doing as a parent.  :)  I think it would be sucky to mix bottles, too.  I think sometimes, you just can't win.  I choose to do the best for her when I can (I know some people can't breastfeed, and I know many of them are giving the best they have to offer, and the ultimate best in other areas, too).  Sometimes I don't love breastfeeding, but I don't have to love every minute of something to recognize it's optimal for my kid. 

apexm... apexmommy

And breastfeeding is always easier after 6 weeks and almost simple by 3 months.

daralynn daralynn

I was fine with bf, I hated pumping while my son was in the NICU

Freela Freela

How old is your baby?  The first few months can be very miserable.  If you're really struggling and uncomfortable, I would recommend seeing a lactation consultant- they were so good for me when my first could not latch well because of a tongue tie.  I went to see them when he was about three weeks old because I was at the end of my rope- as I recall, I basically handed the baby to one of them, sat down, and bawled my eyes out for ten minutes!  It did improve however, and I was glad that I stuck in there because ultimately I was a very happy nursing mom.  Hang in there!!!

Julia... JuliansMom23

I didn't mind breastfeeding but I ended up pumping and freezing and storing milk. It worked out great and was good for my baby.  It's not for everyone but letting your baby get those nutrients from you especially in those 1st few months of life. I lived by my pump because I had alot of trouble with my little guy latching.

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