It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.
This Week's Secret:
When my baby was first born, I thought she was ugly, but she's so beautiful to me now. — anonymous
We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!
If you have a new mom secret you'd like to share anonymously, PM me.
Past confessions:
I'm Breastfeeding But I Crave Beer
I Sometimes Use Breastmilk for Cooking
I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat
I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone
Ashley Is a Widow Who Stays Strong...
This Hot Dad Wants to Vacuum Your Rug
This Hot Dad Wants to Do Your Ironing
KStew Refuses to Shower
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When I was pregnant, I was really worried that I would have an ugly baby. I mean...there are unattractive people in the world....what's that guarantee that YOUR baby is going to be one of the cute ones? It's superficial, I know but it was a real concern to me at the time.
Sure enough he had a weird head when he was born (very oblong and slightly tilted) but I thought he was beautiful, and I still do! I don't worry about how any future children will look, I know that I will love them and I (their mother) will be able to find where they look beautiful.
I have a few friends that say their kids were ugly when they were new borns. I however did not have that problem....my kids were the most beautiful! hee hee
I thought my daughter was just the bee's knees when she was born, but looking back, she was so funny looking.
My son on the other hand, I thought looked weird at birth. His face was all smushed up and he had a weird little nose, and this terrible frown. After a few days on the outside his face evened out, but for the first few hours he was just as weird as any other newborn.
Luckily, both my children have grown up to be beautiful toddlers, but they do have their flaws, which I have no problem seeing. My mom goggles aren't in the way when it comes to DD's Parana like teeth, or DS's weird toes. lol I think they're beautiful and would probably still think so if they'd been born without faces. (Something I had nightmares about for months while I was pregnant)
OH yes my DD was ugly as hell when she was born LOL. She was swell and look just like Mr.T hahahaha He was all bruised swallow from being extra time in the womb. When she was born I look at her and felt glad that she was here and happy BUT I couldn't help to think that she was not very good looking. NOW as she grew and all the swelling wear off I could see she was GORGEOUS! Big bright eyes,beautiful curly hair and a smile to die for. And don't get me wrong I love my DD with all my heart form the moment I saw her no matter how she look.
There's no shame in this. I know some people say "There's no such thing as an ugly baby!" but those people live in a magical world. Let's face it - there are UGLY babies out there. Newborns generally aren't the cutest... cone heads, poofy red eyes (even without ointment or drops!), smushed eyes/cheeks/ears... they get cuter when they fill out, usually, but not all babies are cute, that's just life.
I remember thinking my son was cute when he was born, but now that I look at his hospital pics, I realize that he was all red and squishy like every other baby and not very cute. LOL
Now when I had my daughter, I didn't think she was very cute. But after a month or two, I thought she was adorable. I think both my kids are so cute now!
i thought my son was absoltuly beautiful when he was born, he had porcelin skin and big blue eyes and just the cutest little button nose...well a few days later he got jaundice really bad. he looks like an orange alien fro outer space or something!!!! he eventually got over it and went back to the beautiful little creature he was when he was first born and now hes just the cutest little 2 year old.
I thought my son was beautiful from the moment I laid eyes on him, but I agree that there is no shame in this at all. I think a lot of first time moms expect to see one of those grinning chubby little "newborns" (usually like 2 month olds) from the diaper commercials and instead see a wailing funny looking little raisin, hehe.
I thought my daughter was beautiful from the first ultrasound (she looked like a cuddly bear). When she was born, all the nurses in the hospital said she looked like a little doll. I think it was mostly because she had so much hair. Even today people come up to us when we are out and say how cute she is. A lot of people say she looks like me, but I think she is more beautiful.
It just took untill she was cleaned up
I mean it was a beautiful thing to give birth and hold my daughter. But when she was still sloppy, red, with a lopsided cone head, I had to just remind myself 'this will be better soon' lol!