New Mom Secrets: My Baby Annoys Me


It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

I love my son more than anything but sometimes I just don't want to be bothered with him so I stick him in his swing. He's just an itty baby but he annoys me a lot. — anonymous


Do you ever feel annoyed by your baby?

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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!

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I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper

I Wish I Never Had a Baby

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Trini... Trinity12.06.08

I have never been annoyed at my daughter. A little tired yes, but not to the point where I would tell her to shut up because she is playing with her toys and I can't hear my tv show. to me, that's just plain mean.

njmom... njmommy23girls

It does sound strange that anyone could be annoyed by an infant??  I don't think I ever felt annoyed but I do agree that if this feeling is happening alot then the person does need help.  And if she is reading this-- no judgement here -- just admit you need help and get it.

nonmember avatar Liz

I've never been annoyed by my son. When he's playing and makes noise its because he's developing speech; when he cries its because he's hungry; when he's fussy its because he's tired. He isn't old enough to manipulate so how could his basic needs annoy me? Those things are part of having a baby! Even when I have to wake up at 2am then 4am and be up for the day because he's ready to play, I can't be annoyed. If DH wakes me up its a whole different story :p

Maybe just having someone to talk to about how you're feeling would stop the annoyed feeling. Your son loves you more than anyone in the world even if he can annoy you at times :)

Zamaria Zamaria

It's totally normal to be irritated sometimes! Especially when you have a baby who is fussy for no obvious reason. Baby is fed, diaper is clean, but the baby is screaming to be held, and you have eight loads of dirty clothes, all the dishes are dirty, it's 7:30 pm and supper isn't even started. Yeah I get annoyed too. And sometimes I just have to put him down and do what I need to get done. Mine fights sleep too, so a lot of times he's tired when he's crying, but just will not go to sleep. Rocking helps some, but as soon as you try to put him down, he starts screaming again. It's frustrating. It's annoying. And it's almost impossible to take a shower. Or relax. Doesn't mean that we don't love our babies, or that we are mean to them or don't like them. It just means that it can be irritating to not be able to get anything done or have any alone time. If you're irritated to the point that you want to spank or hurt the baby, or just want nothing to do with the baby, then you should get some help. But it sounds like you're just a normal mom!

nonmember avatar Becky

Hmmm.. well I can completely understand. My son is just over a year, and from 3 months until now he is SUPER annoying :S And dont bother being passive aggressive and saying "poor boy" all you keeners!! He is always well cared for and I am a good mother to him and have sacrificed everything I have to provide for him. BUT, NOT ALL BABIES are the same. If you are someone who has had a high maintenance baby you know, and I appreciate this mother having the courage to not "sound good" but be honest about the trials of being a mother to a more difficult child. We have friends who had a baby girl and thought we were CRAZY when we said how difficult our son was, THEN they had another baby who was just like ours :) Now they always say, we get what you mean!! Certain babies will sit and play with their toys and others are into EVERYTHING. I know ours HATES his car seat so cannot go anywhere without him screaming at the top of his lungs. THIS has nothing to do with "comforting him" some babies just make for a more difficult time. He LOVES to break things and is reckless. Anyways, long story short - some babies are more difficult than others, and all you can do is the best you can. Dont feel guilty if you "need a minute" make sure all her needs are met and put her in her swing, or playpen or whatever safe space you have and take a minute.

Faelynn Elizabeth Oswald

my baby annoys me at times, but i always tell myself she's only a baby and she depends on me. i only leave her in her swing crying when i HAVE to get something done around the house. i feel horrible letting her cry but then when she see's me and smiles, i forget why i was ever aggravated with her. i love her so much :)

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