Whose Last Name Does Your Baby Have?

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I kept my maiden name so when I was pregnant the conversation wasn't just about what the baby's first name would be, but what her last name would be as well.

We settled on my husband's surname, but only because it sounded a lot better with her first and middle names. (We also had first and middle name options that went with my last name.)

If I have another baby, I'm not sure what his or her last name will be. We've talked about one kid having my husband's last name and one kid having mine, but my stepmother, a former teacher, thinks that's a crazy idea. She says that kids have enough difficulty and confusion in school and that siblings (and parents) should all have the same last name. I didn't point out to her that she, my father, and her honor student daughter all have different last names.

Momlogic raises an interesting point about twins. One couple who already had two kids with different last names also gave their twins different last names (one got the mom's and one got the dad's). But some parents of twins object to this, saying that twins have an especially close relationship, and that having different last names could jeopardize this. I don't buy it. I don't think sibling bonding has anything to do with last names. For that matter, I doubt one twin has ever thought to ask the other what her last name was before deciding whether or not to bond

Whose last name does your baby have? Do all of your children have the same last name? Do you know any families in which some kids have the mom's last name and other's have the dad's? Would you ever give twins different last names?

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nily nily

Well here in Puerto Rico your kids MUST have 2 last names. One from the dad and one from the mom. And if for some reason they cant well the grandparents can give them one of theirs. My son full name is Joseph Anthony Delgado Tapia and my DD name is Nilmary Rodriguez Tapia. They both have their dads last name and mine after their names. Here is just that way is the LAW LOL.

amw529 amw529

we went with my husband's last name as i took that name when we married 5 years ago.  I can sympathize with the mother in law who's a teacher....  it's hard to make parent phone calls when the last name of the student and parent don't match up.  it's one thing if you've met the parent at back to school night, but when you haven't and I have to call on behavior or the "F" at interim time and I ask for Mrs. so and so and the name doesn't match, it can be so embarassing.... Most parents are ok about it, but you do get the occasional obnoxious one.

Cafe... Cafe Cynthia

Names are very important, as we know from agonizing over our baby's first names. My kids both have the same last name, the name I also took from my husband when we married. I think it helps to create a sense of unity, that we are all one.


My daughter has my husband's last name, even though I kept my maiden name. When people call me Mrs. Blah Blah, I do not correct them. But all of my legal documents have my maiden name.

sodapple sodapple

my daugther has my husbands last name but i'm planning for the next one to have my last name even if i have to be sneaky filling the hospital forms, he did promise the next one was going to have my last name so i'll fight =-)

LadyKiki LadyKiki

I have my husbands last name, so our son has the same last name as us. My sister gave her children their father's last names. I never know what to write on envelopes I mail to them because there are so many different last names in her family :). I couldn't picture giving twins different last names.

Cafe... Cafe Sheri

I kept my maiden name too but gave my boys' their dad's last name. Mostly, it was important to us because my husband lost both his parents, and we are now his most intimate family. He has a good last name too.

I think the whole name thing is very emotional for families. They should do what feels good for them. But for those that think having a different last name as your kids is confusing and hard, it's really not a big deal. I don't care if teachers address me with my husband/kids' last name. It's nice. Sometimes people even give my husband my last name. It's really not a big deal. And you can go by whatever name you want socially if it's easier for you. Teachers and soccer coaches could care less what your legal name is.

Marle... MarleyDnMe

I'm not married to my SO but we choose to give our  2 kids his last name.

Brade... Bradensmommy719

my son has his dad's last name and when we get married i will then take his last name as well. however growing up i was the one with the different last name. i have my mom's maiden name and my younger sister has my dad's last name. my parents were married after i was born. in the 80s it was the moms maiden name if she wasnt married. so i grew up with the asumption that my dad and sister were step when they are really not.

LaBel... LaBellaDonna

I kept my maiden name and my daughter has my husbands last name. Im mexican and we do the two last names too, first the paternal then the maternal. We discussed our daughter having my name, but in the end she wound up with his, he wanted at least one of us to have his name LOL. I get called Mrs.HisName all the time, and I never correct anyone either.

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