In Support of Bottle-Feeding Moms


bottle feeding vs. breast feeding breastfeding bottlefeedingWe all know that breastfeeding is good for babies and good for moms. I've been fortunate enough to have been able to breastfeed my daughter for the past nineteen months (I hope to make it until she's two).

But not everyone is as lucky. Some moms want to breastfeed, but they can't (they don't produce milk, the baby won't latch, it's far too complicated with their job, they're on medication that interferes with their milk, and the list goes on) so they bottle-feed their babies.

I don't pat myself on the back or think I'm somehow a superior mom for breastfeeding, I'm just thankful that it's worked out so well for me.

Especially since things are getting more difficult for bottle-feeding moms.

New research shows that the increased attention to breastfeeding moms (support groups, web advice, and hospital programs, all of which are good things) has resulted in a corresponding lack of information and support for bottle-feeding mothers (which is not a good thing at all).

Babies need to eat. So mothers need information on how to bottle feed—especially since the majority of breastfeeding moms ultimately switch to formula. Moms need to know how to prepare formula, how to sanitize bottles, and they need to know how much and how often to feed their babies.

The researchers emphasize that while breastfeeding should be encouraged, "It is also necessary to ensure that the needs of bottle-feeding mothers are met. Inadequate information and support for mothers who decide to bottle-feed may put the health of their babies at risk.

Mothers who bottle fed their babies, either because they could not breast feed or because they preferred to bottle feed, frequently experienced a range of negative emotions. These included guilt; worry about the impact on their baby and what healthcare professionals might say; uncertainty about how to proceed; a sense of failure; and anger as a result of feeling under pressure to breastfeed."

Do you bottle-feed your baby? Do you feel you got proper instructions from your pediatrician or your hospital on how to do so? Do you feel your friends and family support you?



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hillmom hillmom

I can truly see support for women who desperately wanted to nurse but because they were in the 1-3% who couldn't or were given false information and stopped (and would like to know how to prevent the situation next time).

athenax3 athenax3

btw, this is the definition of a nazi.  you are upset by others making negative statements, but you turn around and join in by calling us nazi's. to me, that is sad.


a member of the National Socialist German Workers' party of Germany, which in 1933, under Adolf Hitler, seized political control of the country, suppressing all opposition and establishing a dictatorship over all cultural, economic, and political activities of the people, and promulgated belief in the supremacy of Hitler as Führer, aggressive anti-Semitism, the natural supremacy of the German people, and the establishment of Germany by superior force as a dominant world power. The party was officially abolished in 1945 at the conclusion of World War II.

kyriesmommy13 Jul. 28, 2009 at 10:17 AM

The difference is I'm not trying to diminish your esteem, confidence or mothering by judging you, bf works for you and that's not my business nor do I feel the need to make a judgement about you based on it- I'm merely pointing out that some of you are asses based on your own judgemental statements....which frankly needs to be said- you may not like it, just as other mothers don't like being told they are good enough because they opt for a different method of feeding, but oh well, breast is best and those who feel the need to belittle others over it are asses, such is life.

Curio... CuriousSarahM

At least we would hope that anyone giving birth would be able to make a bottle!

this post is ridiculous, anyone can shove some powder in a bottle with water and shake it... really not that hard or worth having a large discussion over. rozepyle

jlizgar jlizgar

what on earth kind of special support could a bottle feeding mom need, it doesnt take a genious to know how to properly prepare a bottle, thats all you need to know...if you can read the back of a can, can scoop, can turn on your tap or open a jug of water and shake, well, by george...youve got it!

Seriously, what pisses me off the most about this article is how the author downplays breastfeeding by saying its good for baby...Ummm, NO, its GREAT for baby, its BEST for baby...why cant some folks get that through their skulls?


jlizgar jlizgar

I wonder if you women who throw around the term Nazi have any family that was truly effected by the Holocaust, maybe you would choose to use a different term if you CHILDISH and DISRESPECTFUL to use such a term!

athenax3 athenax3

yes, the whole post has been the epitome of maturity and compassion until I said the word "nazi" - THAT was the turning matters not that you call me childish and disrepectful- according to at least some of the women on this board, seeing how I refuse to become part of the pitchfork carrying mob, I was already disqualified from their consideration or respect- ahhhhh, well....I'll survive......

Fallaya Fallaya

This is very interesting.  I have a medical condition that made breastfeeding not possible, and I suffered from depression for the first 6 months of my daughter's life.  I definitely found a LACK of support from breastfeeding moms. In fact, I was often accused of lying about my condition!  (Gee, thanks!)  I don't know of any support groups for moms who are/were medically unable to breastfeed.  The moms who are medically unable to breastfeed are almost always lumped into the "You just didn't try hard enough", or "You don't want the best for your baby" categories. 

Now that my daughter is 13 months old, I know that formula played a part in her excellent health.  The nutrients formula provided made it possible for my little dumpling to survive her first year of life despite her mom's dismal breast milk supply.  To date, she has had ONE cold and ONE diaper rash!!  I will never look at formula as some sort of inferior form of nutrition for infants.  Yes, breastmilk is best (God don't you get tired of hearing that phrase over and over again!!??!!), but formula ia an acceptable and nutritious substitute.

nily nily

I breastfeed my DS till he was 5 months old after that I got very sick and the docs told me that one of my kidneys was really bad because of an infection I took a few  medications that could harm my son so I had to stop because of that and I bottlefeed my baby since then and sorry but no one will change my mind and convence me that I'm a bad mom because of that. I give my son what I think is best for the both of us and I dont regret a thing.

Bearsjen Bearsjen

I was so excited to see this post until I read the comments of a couple breastfeeding moms on the first page of comments. You are a perfect example of the narrowminded, militant and frankly ignorant women who think that bottle feeding is just bad any way you look at it. Shame on you for making any mom feel bad about her choices.One thing that has been proven is that not only is hat you eat passed thru milk but stress hormones are also passed down. This makes me wonder what other neg things are passed down, like intolerance, narcissism, and plain ole meaness.

Daynaof3 Daynaof3

From my experience doctors know far more about bottlefeeding than they do about breastfeeding. I have never heard of a mother feeling guilty because her doctor was harsh with her about formula feeding. Most women in our parent generation formula fed so they have the knowledge about it too.

Breastfeeding mothers have to deal with doctors who know very little in most cases about breastfeeding, have no idea how to counsel them through any issue and turn to supplementing with formula or weaning completely to it as an answer for them. They can't fall back on the knowledge of their mothers for help because most often they didn't breastfeed or if they did it was because they didn't have any troubles with it and needed little help(or had it from someone who actually DID know a thing or two about it).

I am pretty sure that in the hospital they give you feeding instructions, I hope that most people would be able to find someone who knew how to sterilize a bottle, and the instruction are on the label along with a warning about proper preparation for babies health. Yes parents should be instructed how to do these things properly and most could get these answers from family or a pediatrician.

I would like to know who conducted the study mentioned in the above article.

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