In Support of Bottle-Feeding Moms


bottle feeding vs. breast feeding breastfeding bottlefeedingWe all know that breastfeeding is good for babies and good for moms. I've been fortunate enough to have been able to breastfeed my daughter for the past nineteen months (I hope to make it until she's two).

But not everyone is as lucky. Some moms want to breastfeed, but they can't (they don't produce milk, the baby won't latch, it's far too complicated with their job, they're on medication that interferes with their milk, and the list goes on) so they bottle-feed their babies.

I don't pat myself on the back or think I'm somehow a superior mom for breastfeeding, I'm just thankful that it's worked out so well for me.

Especially since things are getting more difficult for bottle-feeding moms.

New research shows that the increased attention to breastfeeding moms (support groups, web advice, and hospital programs, all of which are good things) has resulted in a corresponding lack of information and support for bottle-feeding mothers (which is not a good thing at all).

Babies need to eat. So mothers need information on how to bottle feed—especially since the majority of breastfeeding moms ultimately switch to formula. Moms need to know how to prepare formula, how to sanitize bottles, and they need to know how much and how often to feed their babies.

The researchers emphasize that while breastfeeding should be encouraged, "It is also necessary to ensure that the needs of bottle-feeding mothers are met. Inadequate information and support for mothers who decide to bottle-feed may put the health of their babies at risk.

Mothers who bottle fed their babies, either because they could not breast feed or because they preferred to bottle feed, frequently experienced a range of negative emotions. These included guilt; worry about the impact on their baby and what healthcare professionals might say; uncertainty about how to proceed; a sense of failure; and anger as a result of feeling under pressure to breastfeed."

Do you bottle-feed your baby? Do you feel you got proper instructions from your pediatrician or your hospital on how to do so? Do you feel your friends and family support you?



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Ati_13 Ati_13

Oh you guys... I feel so bad for all you moms who were not given the support you needed to breastfeed if you wanted to.  I want to make sure that all who read this article know that 98% of women can successfully, exclusively breastfeed their babies.  It takes support, though, and that is sadly lacking in our culture.  It seems like that was glossed over in the initial article.  I have no love lost for you moms who choose to formula feed for whatever reason, but it's important to know that 98% of women can do it.

A lot of the issues discussed as reasons for not breastfeeding can easily be overcome.  If only we breastfed like we do everything else, women wouldn't have to turn to formula when they have problems.  I encourage all you moms to get in touch with your local La Leche League.  You can do it if you want to! 

Spiri... SpiritedTigress

Everyone more than supports me in bottle-feeding. I only got to nurse my 1yr old until she turned 2 months because of not only the lack of support, but.. I dont know, my entire family was just downright mean. This time (due with baby #2 in 14 days!) I'm nursing until he's 2 or 3, and pumping for our first baby.

It was very hard trying to bottle-feed her, especially when I wanted to nurse so badly. You are very right, there seems to be a lack of information that has to do with bottle-feeding. My family hated breast-feeding and whoever I went to for information on bottle support made me feel guilty and overwhelmed with bottle-feeding.

babyb... babyboomboom

 "But support for choosing to, I think not. It's encouraging a negative thing"

So you are saying that because I bottle fed my son because it was more convenient (I work about 14hrs a day and I'm a single mom so I can't cut my hours) and because I have mental health problems, I did a negative thing for my son.  I didn't want to and I couldn't for medical conditions anyway.  So how is making sure that my mental health was good enough for me to properly care for my son a bad thing?  Should I still have breastfed even though it would have probably made my metal health worse than it was?

Good Lord, why can't breastfeeders just be happy that the baby is fed?

athenax3 athenax3

It seems bottle feeding mothers are one of the new targets for the recent turn towards the vicious vindictive mean spirited pc turn our society seems to have taken. In fact, anyone who does anything that isn't for whatever reason "accepted" by the social medium becomes a victim to the social pressure, vile names and constant scrutiny- and a surprising number of women are leaders of this new mean spirited judgemental bandwagon that so many seem to be on- just look at some of the replies in here in this very post- women who don't know anyone or anything on here personally, but feel justified in condeming or judging how a complete stranger chooses to feed her baby- and why do they think they have that right? because our new society says being a judgemental bitch is not only okay, but encouraged and the more people you can vicitmize and make feel inadequate and not up to YOUR standards the better- it's not disconcerting that mothers bottlefeed, it's that those who claim to want to help them make an alternative choice are the scary natzis that prevent unsure women of even considering breastfeeding- I've met these natzis in person, and frankly if I was considering bf, these women would be the very reason I wouldn't ever, ever do it- who wants advice and help from some sanctimonious self righteious witch- I'd rather give the kids a bottle than listen to one more prude quote bf statistics.

athenax3 athenax3

I just want to add I deeply appreciate the post and feel that it was written in an accepting and understanding spirit, unfortunately there's never a bf natzi too far away to hear a nipple drip and rush to condemn anyone they don't agree with....

kyrie... kyriesmommy13

I've met these natzis in person, and frankly if I was considering bf, these women would be the very reason I wouldn't ever, ever do it- who wants advice and help from some sanctimonious self righteious witch- I'd rather give the kids a bottle than listen to one more prude quote bf statistics.

i think it's pretty pathetic that you would refuse to give your child the best start in life only because there are women out there that are passionate about breastfeeding and they tell you that!?! i guess if everyone told you how good natural and organic foods are, you'd only feed your kids mcdonalds to spite them, huh? breast will always be best. the women you call "natzi's" (which it is actually spelled nazi-oops, don't ever use that word again because i just corrected you) are the ones i'd WANT to get information from because you can be sure they have done a ton of research and have a lot of experience!

kyrie... kyriesmommy13

btw, this is the definition of a nazi.  you are upset by others making negative statements, but you turn around and join in by calling us nazi's. to me, that is sad.


a member of the National Socialist German Workers' party of Germany, which in 1933, under Adolf Hitler, seized political control of the country, suppressing all opposition and establishing a dictatorship over all cultural, economic, and political activities of the people, and promulgated belief in the supremacy of Hitler as Führer, aggressive anti-Semitism, the natural supremacy of the German people, and the establishment of Germany by superior force as a dominant world power. The party was officially abolished in 1945 at the conclusion of World War II.

jenca... jencalkins

What the world needs is more mothers who mind their own damn business and let every mother raise their child they way the see fit.  What's right for one person may not be right for another.  Everyone has their own way of doing things, their own reasons...we need to stop thinking that "our" way is the only right way.  We should be supporting each other as mothers, not ripping each other to shreds...

milfa... milfalicious08

"we need to stop thinking that "our" way is the only right way."

Breast Feeding may not be the ONLY way, but it's the BEST way, and there is nothing that will change that.  Even if a mother TRULY can't breast feed, that doesn't mean the benefits of BFing diminish.  It's still the BEST, just not an option. That's the difference.

Dimpl... Dimples239

I have bottled fed  2 kids and I'm bottle feeding one right now.  When I had my first child they did make me feel guilty and I tried for a little while and she did not want anything to do with the breast.  I gave her the bottle she loved it. Of course the staff keep pushing me unitl I had enough.

I have ever since bottle fed my kids and have no regrets about it.  My girls are healthy, smart,  strong.  I have never had any issues with preparing formula or issues with bad spit up and gas..

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