In Support of Bottle-Feeding Moms

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bottle feeding vs. breast feeding breastfeding bottlefeedingWe all know that breastfeeding is good for babies and good for moms. I've been fortunate enough to have been able to breastfeed my daughter for the past nineteen months (I hope to make it until she's two).

But not everyone is as lucky. Some moms want to breastfeed, but they can't (they don't produce milk, the baby won't latch, it's far too complicated with their job, they're on medication that interferes with their milk, and the list goes on) so they bottle-feed their babies.

I don't pat myself on the back or think I'm somehow a superior mom for breastfeeding, I'm just thankful that it's worked out so well for me.

Especially since things are getting more difficult for bottle-feeding moms.

New research shows that the increased attention to breastfeeding moms (support groups, web advice, and hospital programs, all of which are good things) has resulted in a corresponding lack of information and support for bottle-feeding mothers (which is not a good thing at all).

Babies need to eat. So mothers need information on how to bottle feed—especially since the majority of breastfeeding moms ultimately switch to formula. Moms need to know how to prepare formula, how to sanitize bottles, and they need to know how much and how often to feed their babies.

The researchers emphasize that while breastfeeding should be encouraged, "It is also necessary to ensure that the needs of bottle-feeding mothers are met. Inadequate information and support for mothers who decide to bottle-feed may put the health of their babies at risk.

Mothers who bottle fed their babies, either because they could not breast feed or because they preferred to bottle feed, frequently experienced a range of negative emotions. These included guilt; worry about the impact on their baby and what healthcare professionals might say; uncertainty about how to proceed; a sense of failure; and anger as a result of feeling under pressure to breastfeed."

Do you bottle-feed your baby? Do you feel you got proper instructions from your pediatrician or your hospital on how to do so? Do you feel your friends and family support you?

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RanaA... RanaAurora

toriandgrace, you rock. ;)

BambiF BambiF

What a stupid post.

Jaden... JadenConnorMama

I didnt say there should be a support group for "bottle-feeders", I said there should be a support group for women like myself who so desperately want to breastfeed, but for one reason or many, cannot.  I have done every.single.thing. the LC and the pedi have asked me to do. I have been taking fenugreek, more milk plus, mothers herb tea, oatmeal, beer, drinking gallons of water, and taking a ($)# perscription medication, as well as pumping, dry pumping, EVERYTHING. But as one of the posters so eloquently put it above, apparently, I've "FAILED" at it.

kyrie... kyriesmommy13

no mothers dont need any info on how to "bottle feed" they need support BREASTFEEDING only 1-3 % of women actually CANT breastfeed that being said half the people that claim they couldnt actually could they either didnt want to or had no support (still not a valid excuse to me because lots of us didnt have any support at all but still breastfed......) instead of encouraging FORMULA why not encourage DONATED MILK a much healthier and safer alternative to formula and BREASTFEEDING EDUCATION this post is ridiculous, anyone can shove some powder in a bottle with water and shake it... really not that hard or worth having a large discussion over.

i agree with this^^

our society pushes formula all the time. doctors, nurses, family members, friends, etc., all push formula. it is so annoying. i also agree with rana... if you FAIL at breastfeeding, then i could see a reason to provide info on formula feeding, but not before!

jadenconnor...i feel very sorry for you, and other moms like you, who wanted to breastfeed and couldn't. this does not apply to you.

kyrie... kyriesmommy13

Some moms want to breastfeed, but they can't (they don't produce milk, the baby won't latch, it's far too complicated with their job, they're on medication that interferes with their milk, and the list goes on)

sorry but there are only a few reasons why a women truly CAN'T breastfeed. a job is not one of them, that is a won't or don't. many medications are safe. and the list really doesn't go on because there are only a few reasons why a mom truly can't breastfeed.

milfa... milfalicious08

I completely agree with RanaAurora.  Bottle feeding support needs to come AFTER every single attempt at a healthy BFing relationship has been exhausted.  We should be encouraging and supporting BFing as a PRIMARY means of nutrition, and formula as a LAST RESORT medical intervention.  Why don't we promote McDonalds over home cooked meals instead?  Has the same nutritional value as formula! 

Busym... Busymama07

This is ridiculous. What mothers need are more people who aren't afraid to tell them the truth about the huge difference between formula and breastmilk for fear of "hurting their feelings."

jus1jess jus1jess

Breastfeeding needs all the support it can get. There's a ton of information and skill to learn. And as another said, there's enough FORMULA! FORMULA! FORMULA! on tv, magazines, dr's offices, etc already. There's really nothing to know about it. Mix w/ water according to directions. Shake. Heat. Don't microwave.  Don't prop. There's nothing to master. There's no need for support of it cause it's already the norm, unlike breastfeeding which comes with controversial topics like when to wean and public nursing. Bottle feeding instructions and support shouldn't be given during pregnancy, cause it makes more people likely to do it. It's great that more and more spotlight is given to nursing. It's what we need. More moms learning about nursing and doing it for their babies. Every mother should be given a total breastfeeding course, book, and lactation consultant at the get go. If they end up bottle feeding by choice, of course give them preparation instructions. As easy at it is, some people still manage to do it wrong and that's bad for baby.  At least they'll bottle feed properly. But support for choosing to, I think not. It's encouraging a negative thing. Support and donor milk should be immediately available to those who actually can't nurse though. Those women are VERY rare. If more people knew the facts on breastfeeding, less would think they were one of the couldn't stories.

Hybri... HybridMom27

No, I don't think information needs to be given on proper bottlefeeding. I think we need better support for breastfeeding - including information to doctors (who can adjust prescriptions so moms can nurse and be more supportive of breastfeeding), unlimited support for qualified lactation consultants, more strict requirements to be a lactation consultant, more information to new moms about LLL, etc.



As for donor milk - so you're ok with a stranger cow providing milk for your baby (which is what formula is) but not with a stranger mom who has been screened just like for donating blood, and whose milk has been pasturized just like cow's milk



Hmm.

jus1jess jus1jess

This is ridiculous. What mothers need are more people who aren't afraid to tell them the truth about the huge difference between formula and breastmilk for fear of "hurting their feelings."


YES! YES! YES! Many women don't know cause no one offers information without the woman asking for it. They see everyone else bottle feeding. They go with it. Dr doesn't question it. Bottle feeding friends and family don't question it. Someone needs to step in and give these women the information they don't have.

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