Are Some Fathers Depressed About New Babies?

fathers who dislike their babiesWow. According to this article in the Daily Mail, some dads might not be as happy about new babies as we might expect...


According to the article, new books about fatherhood suggest that post-natal depression can hit men as well as women. They reveal that many men feel "demoralized, depressed, or just plain bored" upon becoming a new father.

Michael Lewis, author of Home Game, An Accidental Guide to Fatherhood, admits that he felt "detached amusement" and even "hatred" during the first six weeks after his daughter Quinn was born. (For more on this book, check out Cafe Sheri's thoughtful post commenting on Lewis's NPR interview in which he says he had a tougher parenting deal than his dad.)

Another author, Steve Doocy, who wrote the forthcoming Tales from the Dad Side: Misadventures in Fathering, expounds on this sentiment, saying there is a reason many new dads feel so clueless. Whereas women are "programmed to mother", he says that "A man doesn't have much of a foundation in fathering. It's more on-the-job-training—and it starts the day he becomes a father."

What do you think about all these men confessing that they've had a mix of emotions (some good, some bad) associated with becoming a new dad? Did you notice a similar reaction in your partner after you had a baby?

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