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A few weeks ago I did a post asking "What would you buy for your baby if you had oodles of money?" By far, the most popular response was "a college fund." As someone who put herself through college and law school with student loans and part-time jobs, I, too, would love for my daughter to go to school without having to worry about money. Financial experts would, of course, say I should start saving now. But what if I don't have any extra money to put aside? Is it appropriate to ask friends and family to give my baby money instead of all those stuffed animals, clothes, and toys that she doesn't really "need"?
That's the question that was raised over at The Juggle. An expectant father eager to jump-start his baby's college investment plan (a 529 savings account) wanted to know if it was okay to ask friends and family to contribute to college-savings funds as soon as the baby was born.
Cindy Post Senning, a director of the Emily Post Institute in Burlington, Vermont, had this advice: It's fine to make such a request of family or friends, but don't put the request in writing on the birth announcement. That risks making the announcement seem more about money than about celebrating the event. Instead, “get the word out by word-of-mouth,” having a friend or relative inform others.
To make giving cash less awkward, consider naming a family friend or attorney to receive the money, suggests Senning. This could help people on a tight budget from feeling embarrassed about giving small amounts. And don’t be too disappointed if people go ahead and buy gifts anyway—many people simply enjoy doing so.
Would you ask people to consider giving you money (even just a small sum) for your baby's college fund rather than a gift? How would you feel if you were on the receiving end of such a request?
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Comments (9)
WE have recieved a request such as this in writing... TACKY VERY TACKY! A family Member had a huge FIRST Birthday for a child and sent out invites requesting no gifts...CASH ONLY!! I bought a gift anyways HAHAHA no Cash!!
Personally, I don't expect my family and friends to get us anything when we have babies or birthdays. In fact on invites or announcements I usually write "no gift neccessary". I don't believe people should feel obligated to get things for us.
We have had people give us cash/bonds/similar and found it very thoughtful. But I agree with PP, I wish sometimes there was a polite way to ask for nothing. Many of our friends will never have kids (due to age) and they buy our kids stuff and I feel terrible. If they do have to buy gifts, I love thoughtful gifts like this (especially if the family has money issues and may not find it easy to save for college) or meaningful stuff like a handmade blanket or such instead of stuff the baby doesn't really need.
I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Our baby's godparents send a check on every birthday and after our kids were born we set up a Gerber Life Plan with tripple benefits, so for 2 kids it costs us $19.00/month and when they reach the age of 18 they each get $50,000.
I don't see anything wrong with this... Maybe I should start this for my son... He has soo many toys anyways!
this sounds very convient actually.... i personally wouldnt ask anything from my family and friends unless it was really necessary but thankfully all my family n friends love my daughter so they would do Anything for her
eaglemomma (and anyone else)-
I considered getting the gerber life grow up plan for my baby but my father convinced me it was a scam and basically you are betting on the death of your child. Does anyone have more information on it... especially someone who has seen it through to a child's adulthood?
I wouldn't ask for it but whenever someone sends money for birthdays or holidays it was put in a savings account. I give cash along with gifts at baby showers.
Fortunately it doesn't take oodles of money to setup a college fund. I just recently found out about a child savings plan that is affordable for most anyone. The interest compounds and the money can be withdrawn for college, to purchase their first home, to pay for a wedding, start a business or they can continue to save for their retirement. There's a $50,000 life insurance policy to boot! The policy is transferable, non-cancelable and the premium stays the same. It is the best savings plan that I have seen! I sure wish my parents would have known about this when I was a child and given me a head start in my financial future.