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Michelle Duggar: 6 Questions About Motherhood

by Suzanne Murray on May 4, 2009 at 11:03 AM

 

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Michelle Duggar is perhaps best known for her role in TLC's 18 Kids and Counting (formerly 17 Kids and Counting). If you're a fan of the show, you know it's not a role she's playing, it's real life. Michelle, 42, is mom to 18 children, eight girls and 10 boys, ranging in age from 21 years to 5 months, all with names beginning with the letter J.

Having a baby is hard enough, but Michelle manages to care for her littlest one, plus 17 others, which is no easy feat. But I guess she's had lots of practice, and lots of help from the older kids. If you're looking for tips and ideas on raising your baby, Michelle and her husband share their parenting wisdom in their new book The Duggars: 20 and Counting!

But while Michelle may be the star of a popular reality T.V. show and author of a book, one soon learns from talking to her that she thinks her most important job is that of mom. Here's what she had to say.

What is the most important lesson that being a mother has taught you?

I can't do it all! I thought I was Supermom starting out, and realized seven kids into it, that was not the case. I was not a super mom and I needed God's grace to help me with my children every day. He's been faithful to show me what each child needs every moment of the day.

How has the state of the world today affected your view of motherhood?

I look at things through the grid of God's word. His word has never changed, the world changes around it. The Bible is my owner's manual for life. My son and I talked the other day about war.

I don't like war, but scripture talks about war and the obvious things that take place. I don't delight in thinking that one of my children would have to give his life, but there are times and places that kind of thing happens.

So I told him if someone kills your family and destroys your home, you would have to guard and protect and take care of the things God’s entrusted to you, and family is that. So I asked him if he would be willing to die to protect his family? And he said, "Yes I would!"

What's the best part of being a mom?

I was sitting with my 5-year-old practicing spelling words. Something spurred a thought in his mind and he said to me, "Momma, I was not nice to this little fella," and he went on to tell me how he had been selfish and what he did. He said he felt bad.

I said, "Justin, that poor little fella. He is your friend and he really loves you." I encouraged him to pray and ask God to forgive him for being selfish. Then he apologized to his friend. Those are the mothering moments that I cherish. I can tell them how to act, but when it goes from their head to their heart and really sinks in—my job is done. Those are the priceless moments we look and wait for.

What's the most important parenting lesson you learned from your own mother?

She made a happy home—she made birthdays a special time, she planned special vacation trips. We were a family of seven—six girls and one boy. She carried a lot of that load and she was exhausted, but she always made things fun. I look back and see the sacrifices my mother made for good memories, and I'm willing to do that for my own kids so they can have those same fond memories.

How do you plan to spend Mother's Day this year?

I don't know! In years past, when my kids were young, they gave me special handmade cards. Dad would encourage those and they were precious. I keep them in a keepsake box. We couldn't always do something for Mother's Day. Going out to eat would be impossible.

Now my children will cook for me on Mother's Day—chicken dumplings or lasagna, it varies. One year, they all went together and bought the bible on CD so I could listen to it—it's so peaceful.
 

What is your greatest wish for your children?

I can definitely quote 3 John 1:4: "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth." You only get so much time to mold little lives, then it's hands off—the clay begins to harden and they will form their own opinions and make their own decisions. I pray the impact I've had will come through later.

*The children's names are Joshua, 21; Jana and John-David (twins), 19; Jill, 17; Jessa, 16; Jinger, 15; Joseph, 14; Josiah, 12; Joy-Anna, 11; Jedidiah and Jeremiah (twins), 10; Jason, 9; James, 8; Justin, 6; Jackson, 4; Johannah, 3; Jennifer, 21 months; and Jordyn-Grace, 5 months.


Mich
elle Duggar feels you only have a little while to try to shape your little one's values. What values do you hope that you will instill in your child?

 

See how other celebrity moms answered these questions about  motherhood:

Gretchen Carlson

Melora Hardin

Ricki Lake

Kris Jenner

Tori Spelling

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  • chudy...
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    chudyschick1251

    May 4, 2009 at 11:51 AM

    IM SO HAPPY THAT SHE ANSWERED THESE QUESTIONS, AS A MOTHER I REALLY LOOK UP TO HER AND HER VALUES, SHE IS A TRUELY BLESSED WOMAN, AND I CAN ONLY WISH TO BE HALF THE MOTHER THAT SHE IS


  • mom24...
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    mom241973

    May 4, 2009 at 12:17 PM

    I am so happy that she answered these questions as well.  Michelle is obviously doing a wonderful job with her children.  I love their show!


  • Devil...
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    DeviledEgg

    May 4, 2009 at 2:00 PM

    Michelle is an inspiration to others. I have 5 kids myself and I know it's a hard job. kuddos to her!


  • Lunas...
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    LunasMama

    May 4, 2009 at 5:22 PM

    "Michelle Duggar feels you only have a little while to try to shape your little one's values. What values do you hope that you will instill in your child?"

    To love and to respect everyone, regardless of who they are, where they came from, or what they beleive in.


  • jennm...
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    jennmarie77

    May 4, 2009 at 9:05 PM

    Michelle, you are an inspiration for so many moms.  We are reading your book in Christian Bookworms for June.  I loved it so much I had to buy it to re-read over and over again. 

    I even made my own laundry detergent after reading your book and I'm so glad I did.


  • Vinta...
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    VintageWife

    May 4, 2009 at 9:23 PM

    Bless her for being an inspiration to us all.  Her faith and love for the Lord and her family is very admirable.  She has taught me many things through their book and their show.  What a great example!


  • Mommy...
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    Mommyof3yippey

    May 4, 2009 at 11:04 PM

    She is an inspiration and encouragement that children ALL are blessings and you can parent your children with patience and Love. She is a wonderful mother and God bless her family.


  • theba...
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    thebatesfamily

    May 4, 2009 at 11:46 PM

    It was after 7 kids she realized she couldn't be supermom? LOL I have one and I know I can't be. I do not have the patience she does and I pray each day for just a fraction of the patience she displays.


  • kylie...
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    kyliebugs_mommy

    May 5, 2009 at 2:35 AM

    wow i love this woman! i wish i could cary her values into my life, and into my families. shes so inspiring and amazing.


  • mom2b...
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    mom2boys1997

    May 5, 2009 at 8:01 AM

    Michelle has been a postive  mother role model for me (I lost my mom before I got married oand had children), and Jim Bob has been a positive role model  for my husband.

    Our home is calmer and quiter since we have seen their example.

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