How Far Would You Go to Have a Baby?

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how far would you go to have a babyIt used to be you had sex and you got pregnant—or you didn't. Now, with the help of medical research, there are all kinds of ways women can get pregnant and have babies. Sarah Jessica Parker is using a surrogate, and there's also IVF (in vitro fertilization), IUI (intrauterine insemination), sperm donors, egg donors, frozen ovaries, frozen eggs, and frozen sperm.

According to Motherlode, one woman, Marissa Evans, is hoping to use a surrogate to become a grandmother even though her son is dead. He was killed in an assault outside a bar, and his mother Marissa received a court order to retrieve his sperm posthumously because he had often spoken of having three sons whom he'd already named (Hunter, Tod, and Van).

"The possibilities are endless and that could be a problem, says Liza Mundy, author of Everything Conceivable: How the Science of Assisted Reproduction Is Changing Our World. 'When there is always something else to try,' she says, 'There is no permission to stop. That's the hardest part of the process for couples. For most of them, the permission to stop comes when they run out of money. And that can bring guilt and feelings of failure.'"

Do you think there is such a thing as going too far? Do you think people should consider adoption instead? How far would you go to have a baby if you had infertility issues?

 

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Kaytl... Kaytlynsmommy

If they want a baby that bad, then let them try. If it was meant to be, it will work. If it's not meant to be, then it won't.

vicki136 vicki136

My husband and I tired for 23 months on our own before seeking the help of a fertility specialist. We would not have been able to have our son without the assistance of a dr. My husband has low sperm count and I have hormonla issues. I do think there is such a thing as going too far, however, surragates and IUI's and donors I think are completely acceptable. To each their own. I also believe those who've never had to struggle to concieve a child will never actually know what it's like and should try and reserve some judgement.

kate_... kate_jocelyn

If I couldnt get pregnant, I would assume it was because that was God's plan and I'd look into adoption. I plan to adopt anyways because it seems silly to me to make more babies when there's already so many babies in need of families and homes.

mommy... mommy2quints

My husband and I had problems trying to concieve. We tried everything, and eventually I ended up getting in vitro. It was worth it, we now have 5 beautiful quintuplets.  :)

mommy... mommy2quints

kate_jocelyn:


Before I knew I would have trouble ttc, I said the same thing. But people who can have kids regularly have no idea what it's like to see everyone around you getting pregnant, and you cant. I thought about adopting, and even surrogacy, but there is no feeling in the world that compares to being pregnant with your own children.

kara_g. kara_g.

kate_jocelyn, I am with mommy2quints. I figured if ever I could not have children I would adopt and move on. But then it happened to me. It was the only time in my life that I suffered depression and it was severe. That journey was painful and isolating. We did eventually conceive our daughter. But until you have battled infertility, you simply don't know how you would feel.

Cafe... Cafe MicheleZ

I agree with kara_g: If you have battled with infertility, women have a more open approach to trying many, many different ways to conceive.


I think it's up to the woman to decide how far she will go. It's a very individualized decision.

Zacob... Zacobysmommy08

i really can't say how far i would go i always was told i could have trouble having a child from being in remission and  i have a tilted uterus but i was blessed i was off the pill for a few days just to change pills and found out i was pregnant but i have always wanted to adopt so i cause i would adopt if i was unable to get pregant on on my own

kate_... kate_jocelyn

I completely agree, there is nothing like being pregnant and having your OWN child, and I cant imagine not being able to experience what I have with my daughter. It's natural for a woman to want a baby, her OWN baby. But now that I have experienced it, I would like to possibly have more of my own, I'm not sure yet, but I really want to do what I think is right and adopt too/instead.


Of course I have nothing at ALL against people who go to great lengths in order to have their own children, as long as their stable and prepared, that's fine with me. PERSONALLY though, I think I would trust God, if I were ever in that situation, and go with adoption instead.

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I think, if a couple try to get the baby by this way it's fine...but, I don't agree with someone do this thing for another reason...

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