It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.
This Week's Secret:
"I have postpartum depression and my husband and mom suspect it. I refuse to go to the doctor for it because I'm afraid they'll take my baby away from me. I know I need the help, but there's no way I'll tell anyone what goes through my head." —anonymous
We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!
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I need to know are you feeling guilty about the baby, didn't want to get pregnant or did someone tell you things that made you feel bad? Also how old are you? Since we don't know who you are anyway, it's ok to tell us. Maybe one of us can help also. I do think that you need to talk to someone also. Don't let it eat at you. Be honest with yourself.
I didn't tell anyone about my PPD but not because I thought they might take my baby away. I've learned alot since then and probly wouldn't keep it to myself if it happened it again.
Depression of any kind is a horrible thing to have to go through by yourself. Tell someone and get some help so that it doesn't get worse.
I'd be more afraid that if i didn't tell my dr. and he/she found out i knew i had it--that then i'd be more likely to lose my child than if i just told them from teh beginning.
I just don't know how you keep something like that secret. Deep depression like post partum is typically somewhat obvious to those that love you. I had post partum for about 6 months and I wasn't very good at hiding it.
I don't think there's any point in hiding it because... they'll figure it out sooner or later and by telling them you'll get the help you need earlier. Post partum is so extremely common, no one's alone in it.
I was given Zoloft for mine after my daughter was born but I refused to take it. My brother became suicidal while taking it years earlier and the thought of that happening to me was terrible.
It was a very rocky road but I made it out. I'm just stubborn that way.
If you are having a problem like that please don't suffer in silence-tell your doctor,they can't help you if you are not honest with them!
I had it with my first but kept my mouth shut. My mom is a manic depressive and I knew they wouldn't take my kid but I didn't want to go into the hospital like my mom did when I was a kid. It would have just reinforced my feelings of not being good enough to the point of wanting to just leave. I got over it after about 6 monthsor so, I was lucky, to be able to cope on my own.
Here's another POV. I had PPD and didn't KNOW I had it! I thought I was fine until my first DD was 18 months old and then I got to the point where I couldn''t sleep at all at night for about 5 months solid. When I finally went to the doctor and got help, he told me it was a delayed form of PPD. If you feel stressed out at all, tell your doctor. If you feel extra tired, tell your doctor. If you feel upset because you're not getting help from your mom or husband and it's making you cry, tell your doctor. All things I was going through that I thought I was handling okay added up to making me sick.
I wasn't diagnosed with PPD until my son was 11 months old. I wish I had been diagnosed earlier. The medication can give you some side effects but you need to communicate with your doctor. After one week of being on the medication I was like my old self and my family was much happier. I can't get back his first 11 months but I can enjoy him now.