New Mom Secrets: I Wish I Never Had a Baby


i hate being a momIt's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets—we won't tell.

This Week's Secret:

"I wish I had my tubes tied and never had a baby. I don't like having to devote every day to doing things I have no desire to do. I'm tired of getting up in the middle of the night to find a pacifier or change a diaper. I hate not being able to spend money on things for myself. I love my baby as much as the next mom and I'd do anything for him. I just don't like being a mom. —anonymous


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We all have secrets and opinions—so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation nonjudgmental!


Past confesssions:

I Took My Baby to a Bar

I Drove My Baby Without a Car Seat

I Forgot My Baby's Name!

I Leave My Twin Babies Home Alone

I Let My Baby Wear a Dirty Diaper


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nonmember avatar mlh1026

I can completely understand where this mom is coming from. I have 3 babies under 4, and I often feel that way myself! It doesn't help that I have PPD either. Perhaps that mom has PPD. Sometimes being a mommy is just not what you thought it was gonna be,and I don't think that mom should be condemned for being honest about her feelings. Having a baby is a very emotional and stressful time. Not every mom can be expected to magically fall in love w/ their baby. I love my babies, but sometimes I really yearn for freedom and I'm jealous of childless couples who seem to have it all.

nonmember avatar newmom24

I say screw you agentbrez! This is suppose to be a non judgment zone. You claim you would never say you wish you never had a baby, bit you're on this site aren't you!? I totally relate with anonymous- I have a 2 month old and I'm realizing my life is over. All I want to do is take a shower and be able to make myself breakfast after a good night sleep. I know that wont happen until the kid leaves the house. I was happy before and now I've ruined it thinking a baby would make me even happier. I'm so regretful and ashamed. There is no going back :(

nonmember avatar Youngmomhoodsux

I can definitely relate to this mom. I had my baby at 18, he's now 6 months old and won't let me do ANYTHING without him. He's begining to have separation anxiety, I'll leave the room for one second and he starts screaming. I'm a single mom (the dad is not involved at all) living with my parents. I want so bad to be out of my parents home but I feel as though I'm bound down to stay here for a few more years by my son. I don't know if I will survive as a fully single mom. I miss being able to go out whenever I want and stay out as long as I want. I miss my friends. I miss being able to play The Sims all day without interruptions. I miss not having to worry about when his father is gonna come around and take me to court. I think what the anonymous mom meant was that she loves her son, but there are moments when she wishes she never had him. I have never wished I never had him, I just sometimes wish he wasn't mine. I love him to death, but I sometimes really hate being a mother.

debbym debbym

Sxyliljoker19 that was rude. CPS should not take her baby away and maybe she is just somewhat overwhelmed? It is an adjustment period for some moms. Not me, but some. I suspect postpartum depression is partially the problem

VileK... VileKross

I am thirty weeks pregnant and I'm already feeling the need to say that I just don't enjoy the fact that my free life is over thanks to a pooping eating slobber machine. As you mums call it love, I call it toleration and responsibility. For those of you who'd like to tell me to adopt my son out, I'd like to say no thank you. I may not enjoy motherhood, but I'm at least responsible enough to raise the child that is currently being a parasite to my body right now, even if I'm not fully engorged to spend my next few years trying to juggle him with college and a job. I won't drop my child on someone else's door. 

Chichibi Chichibi

I TOTALLY can relate with you girl.... how are things going for you now? Any better? My son is about 7 months old, and I feel like I just can't take it anymore.... I am NOT a motherly person... at all. I mean, when I have help, it's not THAT bad, but when I am by myself, his crying drives me insane, and I just wanna cry myself!! I DEFINITELY miss the way things USED to be, more than anything. .... :/ It makes me really depressed actually. I do love my son, but I hate all and everything that comes along with being a mother. I REALLY don't wanna hear hate feedback, just if anyone else feels the same...??? 

nonmember avatar karalyn

i have four boys under 3

and im.19 two are my husbands previous marriage one before i met him and now our 3 month old we share i dont know if its new mom bluea but i feel trappes im a stay at home mom for a year now i clean and take carw of kids all day i never get a break my husband woeka 17 houra a day i sometimes wiah i neber would have had children i do live them i only say thia because im so streased iand i feel so depressed latally i have.trouble enjoying being a mom all the time like ibuse to

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